Need advice

thatguyfromchi · 2017-04-04T16:42:30+00:00

honestly, (people in this sub may disagree with me)... ACCEPT the fact you feel depressed and sad and miss your girl. its OK to feel that way. dont run away from the feelings you have, recognize you feel that way, allow yourself to feel that way.

it wont be until you accept it, that you can start to heal and move on. if you keep running away from the feelings, and never let them out, its like an injury that never heals. take the next couple of days, go cry in the shower, whatever you need. accept that you miss her.. but then swallow the feelings and realize, the past is over and gone. you can then focus on learning and doing new things. eventually you'll get over it.

other than that, you need to keep yourself occupied bro... go start doing new things, find new hobbies, start learning to do shit you may have been interested in. you have taken the time to sit around and 'dwell', now you can take the time to go learn some new shit.

takes time brother. depending on how long you spent with the person.. it can be tough. its not an easy road when you are with someone, everything you did in your life is associated with them... but you know, focus on one thing at a time, if you are focusing on doing hobbies and other things, you are focusing less on being depressed.

r367860 · 2017-04-05T18:47:47+00:00

Run. Run a lot. Get good headphones good shoes and run until your dead. This will help you drop fat make you feel like a bad ass and add to your health. Also runners high is a very real thing. Also focus on meditative breathing for a few minutes each day. Run a half marathon and start training. Set a goal and make that your number 1 priority. Focus on yourself, internalize the mistakes, and learn from your pitfalls.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2017-04-04T17:07:45+00:00

Get off of social media like facebook, IG, etc.

Delete her number.

Work on embracing an Abundance Mentality.

And moving to Houston

Why?

jb_trp · 2017-04-04T17:51:22+00:00

Take all the things that remind you of her (pictures, memories you shared, etc.) and hide them so they don't trigger you. If you're not ready to throw them away yet, that's okay, but just at least put them in a box so you don't think about it.

Next, block her on social media. Don't check her FB or IG, you're a crazy person right now. Don't text her and avoid going to places where you likely will see her.

Next, if you can't make it to the gym, at least start working out from home. Do push-up/pull-ups, get heavy bands and you can do things that simulate curls/etc. Go running. Fix your diet.

Spinning plates is good. Also find hobbies and do things you enjoy. After my last breakup, I started rock climbing, hiking, etc. It really helped because I hated just sitting at home.

Title	Need advice
Author	thatguyfromchi
Upvotes	3
Comments	12
Date	April 4, 2017 4:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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