If I look everywhere around me, I find people dedicated and pursuing their mission, deeply involved and interested, be it from coding to football.

Is it all just a conning game? deluding themselves that they are interested in that field?

Starting from the attention whoring hottie, to the unmuscled beta, to the cad footballer, to the nerdy girl, is it just a persona each of them have chosen as they themselves believe that it is the best method to catch a high value mate?

Be it a girl or a guy, I think their complete identity is based on what they think garners most value for the opposite mate. The guy good at studies believes it will garner him a mate, the male model believes it will garner him a mate, the hottie who studies mechanical engineering believes it will garner her a mate, even the highly sexual whore thinks it will get her a mate.

Everything we do men or women, is ultimately aimed at garnering a mate. We may fool ourselves to fool others of the contrary.

All this is learned behavior by nurture, if the demographics you live in values virginity, she will be a virgin, if it values intelligence, you are more likely to choose a STEM career etc.

That said, do we not devalue what we already have? an intelligent guy knows he is intelligent, but doesn't give a shit if his mate is intelligent, he values looks as he lacks the looks. The hottie knows she is hot, this must mean she wouldn't care if her preffered mate is hot?!! but would want him to be intelligent as she is not?

Is it just a conning game to conn the opponent sex by luring them with our primary strengths, while covertly getting their desired strengths? while also fooling both ourselves and them that we genuinely give a shit about what we do?

I ask this because I do not see couples at all where both of them are completely hot or completely career dedicated, If I see a hot guy, the girl maybe a hb6 or 7 or 8, never a hb9, but somehow all the guys who look and act beta have hb10 wives.

I do not know about one night stands and short term relationships, but I believe, in order for both men and female to be secure in their mate choice, they choose a partner who they have completely fooled. This may explain the settling down in couples as it may be a risk for a hg10 and hb10 pairing. or am I not seeing such pairings because most people are mediocre?

When I see a 40yr old hottie whom I'm amazed still has the looks that Im willing to bang, almost always, the husband is a titan in his field, be it research or business or acting their looks aren't hot in a model cute kind of way, but always bordering ugly, but intimidating fuck with me I'll fuck you face and never a cute guy face, they do not have neither the looks nor the muscles, but they do look strong without gym. You may think it is a beta guy with a hot wife looking from afar, but just talking to him reveals he is very very masculine. Remember I am talking about what looks like successful marriages.

I just want to know what is it that these men have? I just want to get old having a wife like that by my side, Im still amazed when I see such women whom I like to bang, irrespective of whether they are 40(when I have 25 yr old sisters who have hit the wall), I cannot imagine what they looked like when they were 20. I just want to know what it takes to obtain such mates. Is it complete mastery in any field? Is it that they put their 100% in their life and all their endevours? or is it the persona they have chosen? or is it just a lie while their wives bang the mailman?

I am at a point of my life where I have lost complete sense of direction. I want to build a new persona. I am at a perfect stage and age to choose to become a master in any field of my liking. I want to know what it takes. Mastery in a single field, or just looks, or being above average in many many fields.

Should I be a master artist like picasso, beethoven, etc? Should I be a master scientist like einstein, edison, tesla? Crazy to change the world like steve jobs? Master actor like leo dicaprio?

more practically, Should I be a high earning beta in some job maybe becoming a master? or Should I be a highly muscled as well as highly earning and business guy who only some people know or Should I just choose a career path and become the best at it?