Stumbled upon TRP a couple of years ago. Already had most of this down, just not the lingo or the overall picture so clearly defined. It was nice to see other guys figuring this out for themselves as it was hard for me to help friends find the path.

Anyway....

I meet a woman, she has two kids, has been separated from her beta ex for approx 2 years. I meet her because my friend was her #1 orbiter for FIVE years and when I met her I just didn't give two shits. Divorced w/ 2 kids was not on my radar. She started messaging me, talking over chat a lot since my 9-5 is pretty boring. I actually found myself falling for her regardless of the baggage, which is totally not me, first time ever actually. We started dating about 6 months ago and everything was fine. I didn't give a shit about the ex, never showed insecurity or weakness. Hung out with the kids, everyone had a great time.

About 6 weeks ago, she did a couple of things that annoyed me, one had to deal with her ex and instead of just letting it go (i was truly over it in 5 mins) i let her know that i was annoyed. It kind of snowballed without me knowing it for the next week or two. So she became distant over the past few weeks and I finally had enough and just said "tell me what's wrong or just set my stuff outside and I'll grab it tonight". She responded that she didn't think this was going to work because she's now afraid that every decision she makes or some bullshit like that, will piss me off. I explained to her that it was misunderstanding and she should have told me three weeks ago what was bothering her. Unfortunately for the past week i've been chasing her which is totally opposite to how our relationship has worked.

So now i'm sitting here Monday morning, with a more clear head than I've had in the past week or two. I've realized that I totally fucked my frame and I don't really know how to get back on track. I honestly don't want to lose her, she really is an awesome woman, BUT I'm not interested in playing beta until she's had enough of me.

At this point, I feel like my best option is to just go back to the way it was, without acknowledging it and see if she falls back into her ways or continues with the shit tests. Is this the recommended route to try to keep her but get my frame back? I have a feeling I'm going to get a lot of "ex her" comments....which part of me agrees with also.

TL;DR. I fucked up my frame w/ my girl. Don't know how / if I can get it back. Help me!