I am currently about to be 26. I got back with my ex in March after I left her from a bad falling out. She saw me during our homecoming and pursued me and I decided to let us try things out. I moved to the west coast and I am work at a top company making 90+/year and I recently graduated graduate school. She flew out here and we have been living with each other at my place, prior to my birthday Friday. We have also been seeing a counselor which has helped with our previous issues.

A couple of things:

+ We both cheated on each other in college, and she cheated when she graduated after me and moved away from a year. I did not catch her and she never admitted it and I simply got caught up being dumb.
+When we first started talking she spoke about how the dudes she messed with was only for sex and how she was an asshole. Her story switch to her only fucking one guy and she only wanted me to think she had guys to make me jealous. I caught her lying about the guys as well.
+ I told myself what she did when I was single doesn't mater, however when we broke up, she made sure I repaid her for the things I borrow(Which I did), went to social media after a really bad argument.

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Pros:

+She is Nigerian, and believes in a traditional house hold and does cook consistently. She is smart and a recent graduate of grad school. Gets alone with my family. Stated she would be open to prenup. Is smart and handles money somewhat well. Has bailed me out of a lot of financial jams when I really did not have anything going on.

+She does not mind splitting costs, she spoils me a ton with food, gifts, etc and as I do her as well. She is more submissive compared to the modern women.

Singleness:

During our 8 months no contact, I served a ton of nice plates and plates that are higher value from a societal perspective(Finance, Looks, etc.).

I got fit and lost hella weight but I basically gained most of it back, since being locked down with her.

We have argued a ton, and its usually form her inability to tell the truth about our past but our therapists advised us to move forward and forgive/forget the past. It has been well but she is also insecure, thinks I am hiding stuff from her, etc.

My old plates still loom and contact me and I don't know if I should drop my plates and try to focus on us, because she really would make a good mom, looks after me, and has the mind to find valid solutions to our problem.