Preface: I grew up in the christian church my whole life, and have just recently (about 6 months ago) found out what the "pills" are, so i am sort of new ant still working on vocabulary for this community. The girl i might be getting married to i have known my whole life as we have always gone to the same church, and there is a degree of parental influence encouraging our eventual marriage. This might sound like an alarm, but but she has a 9+ SMV (yes, i know what 10's look like) so the physical aspect is spot on. now here is the bigger problems:

1.due to cultural influence, we have no way of gauging one anthers libido before marriage, but i do assume that it is relatively high.

  1. Any sexual practices besides vanilla and sometimes oral are taboo, and codependency is mandatory for sexual pleasure. although quite intelligent, i fear that once we get married, a few years later, she wont be willing to try anything new such as anal or masochism play. and as such, i am looking for resources on how to reverse indoctrinate her regarding these believes, after all, we live in the 21st century, not the 1st.

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Please let me know if i have any "wrong" ideas, r(/)exchristian called me a misogynist roe wanting a sexually active partner, so here goes nothing.