Inb4 "you shouldn't preach, you should let him do what he's gonna do"

I was gonna do that but I love him and want what's best for him so I'm gonna man up and give him the hard talk.

They have all the cards stacked against them.

  1. They're very young: He's 18. She's 17. The younger you are the higher the divorce rate

  2. He just committed to the navy for 8 years. He's gonna be gone a lot, she's gonna be alone, and you know how that goes.

She's pregnant with his child.

And he had already proposed to her. It's on social media and everything

I know he shouldn't have signed his rights away to the navy and I should've talked to him out of it but it's too late for that now.

If I can make him aware of the stupidity of legal marriage, I could save him years of pain and struggle.

So that's the backstory.

But my question is - how can he back out of the proposal gracefully because he still wants to be with the girl and they have a baby on the way? How should I suggest he frame it for her? (e.g. "I love you but I think it's better we don't get married [yet?] because xyz..." Or should I suggest he do a ceremonial but not legal marriage (like I plan to do if I ever get married)? However I have no idea if that would work for him considering he's in the navy and will be going to different states

Thanks so much,

Your fellow redpiller,

C

Edit: also I'm pretty sure there is some financial incentive for servicemen to get legally married, but of course that won't help him if they get divorced