Don't know how this got so long, theres a TLDR, maybe at least read the story of the two girls if you're gonna skip the wall of text.

Almost 1 month into TRP, weak game, weak social circle, but have been reading and lifting lots, recently started training jiu jitsu as well.

I'm 27, 5'11", full beard, slim good build, I should gain more weight but for now I'm feeling good enough to start learning approaches now. I'm not working right now but probably will be inside a month ( I'm on a seniority list and the job is starting to pick up so I'll get called soon ) I'm not sure how to best handle this if and when it comes up with girls. I'm a journeyman in my trade and when I do work it's good money, I do live at home with my mom as well. Between those two I think it makes it harder for me. I live in Vancouver real estate is a joke here, girls do know this. When it comes up all I have right now is some version of "Context matters" and explaining myself minimally. I have money saved and should have my own condo by the end of the year and when I do end up working its decent money. I could move out right now and rent, seems like throwing away money though. Unsure there.

Anyway, after lots of reading through the side bar and recommended books I'm trying to take some action and holy fuck its hard. Typing this is and admitting where I'm at seems sad but I got to, it's the only progress I've made in speaking with a hot girl I've never met in public. I'm not including girls I've met online, its not the same at all. Something about talking online then her meeting ME makes it easier, not that scary.

I went to the mall twice this week probably a couple hours each time, lots of IOIs from girls by themselves and some with another guy or girl. Mostly just staring at me too long.

Two situations stand out where it went badly.

First one is I saw a girl walking infront of me, maybe 21, she went to line up for a drink and I lined up as well. I'm behind her, she notices me, looks once or twice behind her. The reason I didn't talk to her in the line was there was another guy my age infront of her, maybe I'm too self concious to want to try to game her with him as an audience when I know my game isn't strong. It gets better though, she gets to the front orders a smoothie, it takes a while and she has to wait. The other guy is gone and now its her just standing there, I don't think opportunities get more perfect than this, behind me was an old lady I certainly didn't give a shit what she thought. Every ounce of me knows all this yet couldnt turn, stare straight at her to my left and chat her up. I get my coffee and leave. I saw the same girl a couple days later, she seems like she has nothing better to do and just wonders around the mall. Yeah I know abundance mentality, still if I know shes gonna be there now and then, maybe I'll run into her again.

Are my chances with her fucked because how blatantly obvious it was I bitched out and didn't talk to her?

Second is a cute blonde girl walking toward me, stares at me too long all the way till we pass eachother, I don't say shit. Same thing happens with her about 10 minutes later, walking my way again, this time not really staring, I stared and blurted out "Hey" as she was near me, I was going to say more but she didn't even turn and kept walking lol.

Did this girl analyze me between the first and second time we saw eachother and whatever instant attraction or interest she may have had was gone?

Is talking to a girl within 3-5 seconds of seeing her, or us seeing eachother always the best?

Chatting up a girl when we're walking past eachother seems impossible. But these girls give strong IOIs, as if they want me to talk to them.

So yeah me saying "Hey" is about the only progress I've made in saying something to a HB7 I've never met. Weirdly enough that alone made me feel some of Pooks finer advice about rejection. It atleast gave me something to think about instead of thinking of something like "Hey I thought you were cute" Then not saying it and feeling pressure build and ultimately feel slightly shitty after.

I think I just need to keep doing this, in baby steps, but also approach 100 people because I probably overthink shit too much and that might be the only way to slow that down.

TLDR; Do you fuck your chances with girls when they give you strong IOIs, you notice them but don't do shit. But try to do something at a later time or day. They stare hard the first time they see me, eye contact as well, the second time we cross pathes sometimes they dont even stare. How do you stop girls when walking past eachother or should I abandon that idea. Yes I've read How to get laid like a warlord.