Next level shit test

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-06-14T04:15:55+00:00

Her: "oh you wanna forget how to text me back that's ok I'll forget how to give head"

"Plenty of other women know how to give head."

Her: "why would you say something like that to me

"What? You think 'no head' gets you a cookie? Were you in the 'slow' class at school or something?"

stickfiguresk · 2015-06-13T23:40:07+00:00

"Because you're being cute/goofy/silly."

"Why would you say such a thing?"

"Sweetie, you may need a tune up. I think you're stuck on a loop."

She's grabbing for frame. Your mood is always amused mastery, unless she's performing deal breakers: then it's boredom/loss of interest. Your attitude will shape your response.

SkorchZang · 2015-06-14T03:26:50+00:00

That's a good tactic she's hit on. No matter how childish it may seem, if she can get you to explain yourself to her for any reason, she wins the "power grab" aspect of the interaction (the only part she really cares about when shit testing) even if your explanations were brilliant and worthy of a Nobel prize.

I react to shit like this by dumbing the level of the proceedings way down and meeting her questions with more questions of my own. The stupider the better. Example:

her: Why would you say something like that to me?

you: Why exactly would you ask me that?

her: blah blah you're being juvenile, cmon, who does that?

you: I dunno you're the one who started it, aren't you? Just shut your face and come give me a big kiss, stupid.

At no point was her "inquiry" ever taken seriously.

Entershikari · 2015-06-14T01:43:21+00:00

Dude she tried to use sex as a leverage. Don't fall for that. Or you'll end up like the dude who has to do the chores to earn sex point lmao. I made it clear with my ltr that sex was non negotiable.

RedWagonChronicles · 2015-06-14T02:49:28+00:00

Texting with a woman is a lose lose situation. Keep it to logistics otherwise steer the conversation toward sex.

Men read texts logically but women take those words and twist them to their emotions. You won't come out ahead.

In this case a simple "busy" is all that's needed. You have important things to do after all.

Serious discussions can be talked about via call or face to face.

abdada · 2015-06-13T23:07:29+00:00

Learn the 12 levels of dread.

machimus · 2015-06-14T07:20:39+00:00

This is a natural phenomenon when she suspects you're bullshitting and acting tough. She must not be used to you holding frame so well. She'll continue to test your boundaries until she's satisfied or you fuck up. Then she'll either reward you for being a good little beta or punish you for daring to reach above your station.

RPmatrix · 2015-06-14T07:51:07+00:00

bro, I'm going to go waaay out on a limb here and share with you something that's a fairly new "discovery" by they 'scientific community' -- I'm not saying that this is your gf's issue/s, but it's worth a thought imho .... Maybe she really doesn't undestand what you're on about!/

OK Funnily enough, it's partially becoz of the current inclination of the 'politically correct' to 'include women in everything' as much as possible, and might have influenced the investigation in the first place,, however, I do not think that the data that has come about as a result of the research is "wrong" or "mistaken' even, in fact I think it's spot on, and I can look back (and around me now) and suddenly 'see' and understand these women, some of whom I have at times been good mates with and known well, yet at times (sometimes a LOT) I couldn't "get" where they were 'coming from' and they couldn't explain themselves, but in other types of situations they were as 'normal' as anyone else.

Now I do currently know quite a few males who are part of this 'spectrum of people', a 'spectrum' (IMO a perfect word to describe such a crazy diverse group of people) know as the "Autism Spectrum"!

Males have always tested 10 times higher for ASD disorders than females, and this never made any scientific sense, which is part of the reason for this research to be done, and the results that came back were very surprising as it appeared that drs were simply failing to diagnose females with ASD often mis-attributing the 'symptoms' mentioned as something else completely!

When tested independently with current methods males and females are beginning to test equally for ASD spectrum issues.

Yeah I was blown away, when I read the article I've linked below and then did a bit of research and watched some shows about girls getting diagnosed with High Functioning Autism aka 'HFA' or Aspergers Syndrome, and when you hear a girl 'who's now in her mid 20's and been diagnosed HFA talk about "how she coped by copying the other girls" and often she had NO idea why they were laughing or whatever, BUT she'd laugh along to just to be a part of the group and not appear like she 'felt inside' --- and who can blame her/them?

These girls also tended to prefer the company of men as they were much more straight up and less confusing, and as people 'on the spectrum' have a lot of problems 'establishing boundaries' to me this explains a lot of girls I've met over the years!

http://aspertypical.com/2013/02/07/the-misdiagnosis-of-women-on-the-autism-spectrum-a-shared-story/

http://aspertypical.com/2013/06/12/the-borderline-of-aspergers-the-similarities-between-borderline-personality-disorder-and-autism/

Faced with the choice of BPD or ASD my psychiatrist precariously leant on the side of the former. Borderline is most common in females and could be considered an extreme form of the female brain, in much the same way that autism has been considered an extreme form of the male brain. So of course being presented with a depressed and anxious patient, who seems to be oversensitive to all forms of treatment and a general pain in the arse (PITA), shoving them into the bracket of ‘unstable female’ would seem like an appealing option. Fortunately for me I had a team of Asper-believers (namely a therapist, my mum, girlfriend and a few friends), and an imminent date with an adult autism assessment clinic to squash those BPD rumors circling my mental health records.

What others should have noted was my lack of displayed emotion, my evident self directed anger, and my desperate struggle to please everyone and not miscommunicate as key signs that my personality was not disordered, my entire neuronal network was disordered and I was desperate to gain control over it. So why did they look the same in me and so many other women?

Autism expert Tony Atwood believes that this misconception of females on the spectrum comes from their ability to hide their autism better than males, resulting in behaviour patterns which can mimic those with BPD. This is particularly true if in an effort to mask social confusion and appease others, she models herself on someone else to achieve social success; in the unlikely event that that person happens to have BPD then she has no hope! This can lead to fake and forced social interactions, which can lead others to feel she is manipulative and superficial and completely divert away from the fact she has an ASD. On the other hand the Aspie’s experience of bullying, rejection and betrayal can lead to fears of abandonment and intense and unstable relationships with others, mimicking a BPD

TL:DR" There are a LOT MORE women with HFA and/or Aspergers who walk about un/misdiagnosed and feeling miserable, and we Men should learn to include them just as we'd include our Male HFA/Aspie mates, it's the right thing to do, and IMO as alpha as fuck to learn new things which are useful, and this makes SO much sense to me and had suddenly 'explained' all these "crazy" girls I knew!

They weren't "crazy" they were Aspies or HFA who becoz they're girls, who are natural actresses, had "learned to play the part BUT they never really understood the part' they were playing!"

No wonder they came across "crazy"! I have two HFA mates who are fascinating guys, but occaissionally they make classic 'faux pas's' at the worst possible times, BUT as I understand they are Autie I'm cool with it as I understand they didn't mean it, it just the words came out "all the wrong way", and at times it''s fuckin hilarious .... but for my mates, the 'joke' is long over and well worn out.

They know they're not 'normal' or, as they call us, NT (neurotypical or normal type) and as they have NO choice but to deal with it, they do what they can, and for me, it's NBD that they're rather 'different' than other people. I don't have to see them, and TBH I usually only see them in smallish doses of a few hours at a time, (the HFA's) and it's usually not in a typical public enviroment, but IDGAF anyway as they're very intelligent and cool guys, but sometimes a little too strange and hard to comprehend IME ...

and as their main problem is understanding typical 'social cues' like facial expressions and body language and even simple common comments (something like "good on you" can be said by someone and they way their brains process those words gives can (more like will) give it another meaning altogether that they don't understand, i.e. that comment cold turn into them asking themselves, "how can you 'put good' ON someone??" they rarely get puns or wordy jokes) sometimes, they can get very pedantic about the semantics! If you can deal with it you can meet some awesome people with amazing ideas, who don't really get to know many people, becoz they can't, they just don't know how to becoz their brains are wired differently, that's all. BUT most of us don't know OR understand this. If you've read this far, thanks.

I hope at least somebody gets something from this post as I think it's a very real issue that's NEVER been even "acknowledged" let alone "sufficiently" to help these girls who must be going through hell becoz their brains are wired differently yet nobody can see it (Drs etc) and so no one believes them, I feel for them as i know the hell of not being believed by these "medical professionals" who are telling you things you know aren't right! It's frustration plus and you're trying to get help BUT nobody evens diagnoses you right in the first place so you don't get help, you get hassles!

RPM

btw; I've had to work with lots of guys, who were IMO 'Aspie' to some degree, and they can be difficult to deal with, to say the least, as they can be so very 'normal' one day, and totes fucking crazy the next! Coming to work in the morning was like coming home to a super moody gf on her period, and all yo know for sure, is something will go down! That was a difficult job, even though the guys was "too nice" 98% of the time, but he has his 'moments' when he became a fuckin psycho for the the other 2%, which was about a total of 5 hours in total, of too many 'moments' of 10mins -2hrs' duration over a 2month period, like a crazy GF you had to work with, I tried to stay on the other side of the jobsite!

I was SO glad when that job finished!

RPM

stealthcreeper · 2015-06-14T10:58:27+00:00

good ol' powertalk

Title	Next level shit test
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Date	June 13, 2015 11:02 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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