Nice guy game

Rexile · 2020-07-31T11:03:57+00:00

Most "assholes" aren't actually assholes, they're called so because they don't play by the rules and know their boundaries, so essentially you can be called an a-hole by people just because you aren't obedient or submissive to them. People like people who they can control.

People tell you to be an a-hole because this archetype has specific traits are desirable and get you more social success, like: abudance mindset, boundaries, confidence, don't give a fuck attitude, going your own way. Obviously it's easier and more convenient to just change your personality altogether than adopt new personality traits.

The common nice guy is not actually a nice guy, they're just harmless and passive. They're what assholes aren't, they're agreeable, timid, fearless, they're followers.

If you want to be a nice guy, you can (actually it's better option in the long term, asshole life can get really lonely), but you have to adopt "asshole" traits that make you carry yourself high (mentioned above).

And for dating it doesn't really matter as long as you have abudance mindset, humour and are fun to be with. Being a nice guy doesn't get you in the friendzone, being boring does. Nobody wants to fuck a guy who's stiff as a stone as will kiss girl's toes on every occasion.

Rolfenstien · 2020-07-31T11:55:46+00:00

There’s a difference between being kind and then being a nice guy. The man who has a strong mental frame, is confident in himself and gets validation from himself can choose to be a real arsehole and nice. The “nice guy” has no other option, his default mode is doormat.

So, he the man that has the option to choose. There’s nothing wrong with kindness and compassion. Just don’t be weak.

hatefulreason · 2020-07-31T14:27:26+00:00

treat a princess like a whore and a whore like a princess - some old guy

BluzzKill · 2020-07-31T17:29:30+00:00

I treat everyone with respect unless they give me reason not to. Is that nice?

I believe I have once used the line, "do not mistake my kindness for weakness".

When you are the asshole smart people of high value will avoid you. Sure some people will be drawn to you etc but it's not really a good attraction.

Nice guy will attract users and controlling people.

Kind but confident you will occasionally get users that you then brush off and you can also get along well with the most people, create the best friendships, and still not be taken advantage of. The key here is you value yourself as the highest and choose to be kind.

Musicgoon · 2020-07-31T15:30:24+00:00

Let me explain: Assertive men go after what they want. Assholes bully until they get their way. Charismatic men have people drawn to them and will bend over backwards for them. Assholes will bully people to get their way. Men with abundance will shrug off a rejection, there's plenty more women out there. Assholes will blame everyone but themselves and have a meltdown. Confident men know their value. Assholes fake confidence and go way too far with arrogance so it seems insecure and phony.

Nice guys are pushovers. Assholes are insecure. Find your confidence.

AloofusMaximus · 2020-07-31T15:31:06+00:00

I treat everyone well, and with some amount of respect. That doesn't mean I put up with bullshit either though.

I fuck with people a lot too, but it's not mean spirited. Like if you're teasing women and they're getting offended, your tone is off or something. She should be laughing when she calls you an asshole. My conversations are mostly serious, then I'll take something she says out of context (intentionally).

If you're giving off too much of the boyfriend material vibes, it's probably other things you're doing

Abarsn20 · 2020-07-31T16:28:40+00:00

Just be yourself and project some confidence. That seems to be the most successful path.

TheBadGoy · 2020-07-31T11:05:13+00:00

Nice guy game doesn't work unless you're a 10/10. You have to stand out somehow, teasing and being aggressive is the key

Title	Nice guy game
Author	AbusiveFather1
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Date	July 31, 2020 10:50 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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