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[–]vodkamonsta 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Nah I know ugly guys that can smash some puss. It could be your standards are too high or a character flaw you aren't aware off that's turning them off. Also, for online dating if you're just using tender I'd recommend okcupid. I've had way more success on okcupid compared to tender.
[–]seddithrowaway11 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Is going after 6s too high? I'm probably a 5 at best. No matches in 5 months on tinder, 3 conversations ever in a month on okc. No dates ever. They're not as ugly as me then
[–]vodkamonsta 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Smv is more than physical attraction so you have two choices, start chatting up 4s or look in the mirror, look at the bank account, look at your social standing and improve wht you can.
Personally, I wouldn't date under my set standard. The only time I would recommend it is if you lack general experience in sex / dating / interacting with women. You don't want to finally land someone you're into and turn her off by being a dork or not knowing how to play the clit.
[–]seddithrowaway11 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I'm a student though, bank accounts aren't going to be deep until mid 20s. Social standing is bad, but meh at a university where I'm somewhat known around a few athletic circles. I am a virgin, but don't want to lose it to a fat girl though since I'm not fat, but in shape.
[–]vodkamonsta 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah, don't lose your virginity for the sake of it, no fat chicks unless you're into it. Start looking for stuff to do on campus. Clubs, sports leagues, whatever they got. If someone invites you to something, always say yes unless you have something better planned. If you don't need to work consider a part time job at a restaurant or something like that anyway.
The main thing though, and this applies to all guys. When you're going out to the tennis club or whatever it is make that the #1 purpose, whatever the activity is. I've seen guys of all ages out, doing something, and I can tell if they are just looking to pick up a girl. I say this all the time, if I can smell it, the girls can smell it x10. I've got a dude nose and girls have a bloodhound nose for that shit.
[–]seddithrowaway11 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agreed on the first part, which I've started during my summer off.
Second part, is I feel that I'm the opposite in that I forget about the girls when I do club/sports things which makes it difficult.
[–]AiAmDreamer0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If your physical attributes are on point, then your issue lies with your mental attributes. You're prioritizing in your mind girls and your lack of status with women, and especially later in life, this becomes a huge turnoff.
I understand that you have little experience with women, but you really want to treat them like an accessory. That they're just a flashy little bracelet you picked up from some street vendor, and that if you lost it, well oh well, it cost $2 anyway, so what's there to care about?
Hang out with guys, join an improv group, objectify women, and maintain indifference.
[–]phareux0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I know that feel
[–]seddithrowaway11 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I just want to give up at times. Never been on a date in my life, been kissed, invited to anything social. Just seems as if I'm a ghost to women.
[–]phareux1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I haven't gone on a date in 2 years.. I'm 21.. in high school I had maybe 2 friends, (who are off to university now) everyone thought I was a weirdo and only talked to me out of pity and I could feel it. I got my first movie date like 2 years ago and she thought I was akward and didn't text me back the next day. I got the message.
Sucks, at least you've been on one.
[–]phareux0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
... Ive been considering it. There's nothing to live for. Go to School, eventually make money, and then what? If I don't have any friends and no love interests I don't know what else to do with my life. I never got into sports because the football guys would always beat me up whenever I tried asking them about joining. It just seems hopeless. I'm to scared to try hobbies because most of the guys I see out have girls or friends and in just this skinny akward loser. I'm 6"3 150 lbs
True. I'm more sporty, but your point is valid
[–]Oneminutesexmachine1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
You need to lift for multiple years before you have a body that girls actually think is impressive. Every girl expects jacked guys, 1 year is not going to change a damn thing if everything else is still shit in your life.
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