“Not Good Enough Yet” Mentality

Quaternionz · 2018-09-07T23:48:04+00:00

Sounds like you're not good enough yet. Consider yourself fortune that you know the path forward and are already on it. That puts you ahead of most guys who are just sitting on the couch Friday night eating ice cream and jerking to porn. You're young and you have a lot of time to get there. Just don't quit.

StrongLifts 5xt5 is a solid program for beginners. Get your squat up. You should be able to squat roughly 25% more than you bench. Having a bigger upper body relative to your legs might be harmless and just look weird, but other imbalances can fuck you up. Like for example don't let your deadlift lag too far behind your squat. Not deadlifting heavy means having weak hamstrings. Having weak hamstrings mean you might rely too much on your quads during squats, and that can fuck up your knees. Deadlift 36% more than you squat. If you can't deadlift 36% more than you squat then freeze your squat weight and focus on deadlifts.

Lots of guys ignore legs, but big strong legs are attractive. Pants that used to be loose become tight and form fitting. Your old pants will rip and you'll have to buy new ones. I've had girls at bars grab my thighs, squeeze, give me sex eyes, and start making out with me. When you're in the bedroom a great move is to ask the girl how much she weighs. She'll be hesitant to tell you an exact number. Tell here "Here, get up, I'm going to weigh you." Move to an empty space in the room and tell her to come stand behind you. Squat down and tell her to get on your shoulders. Her legs will be on your chest, hold them with your hands. Once she's stable stand up. Squat her bodyweight a few times. Go down extra fast if you can. She'll shreek and flip a shit, but she'll love it. When you're done walk over to the bed and throw her back down on it. Every girl I've done that with has said "Holy shit, that was sexy as fuck." It gets them super wet. They love being thrown around like little children. You should be able to easily get your squat up to 225lb, and then pretty much any girl will be easy to squat. If you're having a thresome with two really petite chicks and you can get the balance right then you could probably squat both of them.

If you can't easily squat her, you shouldn't be fucking her. You're either too weak or she's too fat.

That move is also a great compliance test. If she says "No, no, I really don't feel comfortable doing this, sorry" then she doesn't like or trust you enough, and you should next her.

Look at the strength goals chart and try to keep the rough ratios there, using your squat weight as a starting point: https://stronglifts.com/5x5/#Strength_Goals

DropDeadTyrant · 2018-09-07T23:31:46+00:00

145lb squat? I got my squat to 235 in two months. But anyway, I have this mindset a lot. I always think, "why approach girls when I'm not there yet". I'm still working through it. However, I think it's all a part of self confidence. Something I truly lack.

Quaternionz · 2018-09-07T23:54:32+00:00

It's not that long of a grind. A few months to a year on 5x5 with a good diet and you'll be enough above average for girls to really notice you. That's like one college course. Just keep at it.

HurricaneHugues · 2018-09-08T08:34:08+00:00

Youre not slightly above average with that weak ass bench, boy imma tell u that right now.

Aaron_Aero · 2018-09-08T23:18:29+00:00

I just started this week but yeah you’re right. I was using smith machines the last few months but now I’ve switched gyms and I’m doing strictly free weights. Definitely feel the difference cause I had to go way lower plus my form was off so I’m fixing that too. Ive gained about 8-10 pounds since May/April but i would be much more if my diet had more calories so I’ll have to fix that. My diet has the right foods but I definitely need to eat more. As for my squat I just used 155 because that felt good, not too hard to the point I couldn’t finish the set but not too easy. I struggle with everything except bench and even there I need form improvement. Is there a good chance I’ll improve and hit novice weight goals by Winter?

Title	“Not Good Enough Yet” Mentality
Author	Aaron_Aero
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Comments	8
Date	September 7, 2018 10:13 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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