Onitis

fnordsnord · 2016-04-21T19:02:23+00:00

You write like you're really young, so I'm gonna talk about the basics. I don't mean to be talking down to you.

First off, understand that 'abundance mentality' doesn't mean that you're spinning thirty plates and banging each one three times a day.

"Abundance mentality" is the internalized understanding that: A) There are more women and B) This one is NOT that special.

She can be replaced, and at your age, should be replaced by several, if not many.

What to do about her is easy: Go zero contact. And I mean ZERO. Delete her contact information from your phone. Delete/unfriend/disconnect from her on ALL social media. BLOCK her number on your phone. Do not facebook, skype, call, or text with her.

She will probably run you down in a few days or weeks to "make sure you're okay" and want to "try to be friends."

Do not mistake this for wanting to get back together with YOU. She doesn't. Here's the thing about the "ex-swing back by after breakup."

You're good looking (enough). You have enough money to get by. You're honest. You dress ok. If none of these things were true, she wouldn't have dated you in the first place, right? She dumped you because she found someone more interesting. This is a shit thing to do, and she knows it. If she can convince herself that "you are ok" and "willing to be friends," some of the "God, I'm a shitty person" load she's carrying will go away. And THAT'S what "checking in on you" is all about. It has NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with making her feel better about herself. Don't let this drag you through a knothole by your dick again.

She won't be able to contact you like she used to - you've unfriended or blocked her everywhere, so she's eventually going to turn up in your face. Especially if you have mutual friends. It is VITAL that you greet her like you'd greet somebody else's girlfriend. Be cordial, but non-committal. Deflect questions about your personal life with a shit-eating grin. Keep your interact MINIMAL, but don't flat out snub her.

You don't care what she thinks anymore. But OTHER PEOPLE will see how you react to her. Looking butthurt makes you look weak.

Now, as for your "friend?" He's not. Bros before hos. He's not your friend and he never was. Ghost him and look to connect with other people on campus. Check out all the clubs and fraternities. Try shit out. Find out what you like to do and do those things. Friendships will come as you meet people with shared interests.

MrGoodStuff05 · 2016-04-21T16:44:43+00:00

Perfect opportunity to create ~~new~~ friends. You're in college, you will never have access to such a huge pool of people be it friends or plates. Go to the gym on campus and make friends, join a club, even just walk around after class and talk to people.

She isn't a special snowflake. I can tell you probably didn't even know her for that long. You will literally forget she even existed the moment your dick enters another vagina. I bet my life savings on it.

vorverk · 2016-04-21T16:50:47+00:00

one-itis

It hurts, but get both of them out of your life.

abdada · 2016-04-21T14:59:22+00:00

Who cares, game other women, lift barbells, focus on your diet and start working on your future income streams, plural.

MUTHAFATHAGENTLEMAN · 2016-04-21T17:22:54+00:00

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Title	Onitis
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	7
Comments	6
Date	April 21, 2016 2:58 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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