Whatsup TRP friends. I've realized the other day while out at the bars (age 21 in CA, USA) that I am only socially successful with other guys.

I was curious if any of you could help me brain storm ways that I can apply social tendencies with other decent guys to a situation where I'm talking to say three other women. I am extremely strong and adaptable in social situations but it feels as if I am only connecting or truly getting to know another person with other guys.

Usually when I interact with other girls, I use the same humor/personality that I use with other guys. This blunt and harsh humor does work most of the time in terms of initial interest. My go-to line tonight while sitting at a table with my friends was "Do you want to arm wrestle?" with a completely straight face. It worked really well, especially with the t-shirt I was wearing (tight fits and lifting are the way to go).

After the initial playfulness, I honestly do continue this crude humor and end up offending them. Guys love offensive jokes, especially when were all buzzed bullshitting about whatever we're talking about. I just don't know what to do after I catch their interest.

Of course a good looking, 6'2 4-year lifter challenging them to arm wrestling is going to get their jimmies rustled. But after I keep continuing this straight-foward demeanor, I feel as if I lose some, sometimes most, of their attention.