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Plate asked to DTR

Hippie_kev

June 8, 2021

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Started seeing this 20yo woman, for context I’m 23. She asked if I was DTF three weeks ago. We went on two museum dates and have fucked a handful of times.

I have no intention of ever LTR this woman, she’s slept with half my friends & has cheated on her previous boyfriend. I’m just “enjoying my turn”, & we get along great so the dates are fun.

Two nights ago we were fucking and I think I heard her say “I love you”, I pretended I didn’t here it. After we finished, she asked what my intentions are with her. I said “I’m not looking for a relationship right now, I enjoy the museum dates tho”

Honestly I should’ve left it at “I’m not looking for a relationship right now”, the “I enjoy the museum dates tho” was saying too much, I know.

We hugged when she left and she thanked me for a good time.

Thoughts? Plate broken? Advice?

I think I’m going to call her over tonight or tomorrow night. Im hungover today so I don’t know if I feel like having company over

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Title	Plate asked to DTR
Author	Hippie_kev
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	June 8, 2021 1:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/nv4isc/plate_asked_to_dtr/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/plate-asked-to-dtr.783873 https://theredarchive.com/post/783873

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Yes but like you said...the goal was fucking. She wanted to take you on the first date....OK fine. However you have let that become the set precedent, which makes her think you want more. She would have been perfectly content just coming over and fucking.

Now youyr already starting to ruin what might have been a good plate because of the standard you allowed to be set.

You are spending too much time together on the date, and those dates are building investment from both sides (emotional Investment), which is now already causing her to want more, and think you want more.

You should fall back from seeing her for a few weeks, then reingage with a much more casual, purely sexual relationship. Netflix and chill mostly.

I know the dates are fun but sometimes you have to withhold having too much fun with a girl. You have to keep things framed in your mind from the outset of how you want the interaction to go. In a month from now you're going to be asking us if she has too many red flags for an LTR..... Because now you both have feelings and she's pushing for it.

Then a few months from then you'll be asking if it's OK that your ltr is regularly having girls nights at the club.... Not long after you'll find evidence that she's fooling around with one of your friends or some other guy she met.

She might be fun and she might be attractive. You still should not lead yourself in the wrong direction because inevitably this is what happens. I had a smoking hot plate who was very attractive that I saw for about 3 pretty consistently.

On occasion we would get a drink at a bar but mostly she would come over after being out drinking or doing some other activities to see me. Probably some dates too.

The thing is I met her when she had a boyfriend and she essentially left him to fool around with me thinking we might have a relationship. Classic monkey branching.

I liked her personality and like I said she was a smoking hot Latina girl with a killer body. Under other circumstances I might have considered her for a relationship and would have gladly spent more time with her.

I regularly had to tell myself that that would not be acceptable and pull back from spending too much time or even having that many nights that I saw her. On average I would see her once every 2 weeks or so.

Honestly I don't think we ever had what you could consider a date. At most we met up for drinks on a few occasions and I'm talking about less than 10 times in 3 years.

But this ensured that she did not get the wrong idea and neither of us built overwhelming feelings for each other that we expected something more. I think in the beginning she thought there might be more but then she quickly accepted that she was just going to be for the use of sex and she did not mind that.

So I'm just saying be careful with how you believe this interaction because not only will she get caught up. You will get caught up. You were only human after all and someone who was attractive of fun that be around that you spend a lot of time with..... You are going to develop feelings and you know this girl is not worth developing feelings over.

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