By pleasing women I don't mean sex, I mean, me giving pleasure to her, for example: Fingering, eating her out...

We all love making a woman moan like crazy, but I've had some fucked up dreams, and I feel (deep down) that pleasing a woman is to get her approval.

She moans --> I'm doing good --> I'm good.

This could get into freud theory, etc.. but I don't want to get into that.

How do I separe the thought: "I'm just giving her a lot of pleasure" and "If I make her moan I'm doing going and I get her approval"

And yes, I had nice guy sindrome when I was younger, and that what I'm afraid of.