Post breakup

_the_shape_ · 2018-12-28T15:15:06+00:00

Remove ex from all platforms if applicable (Instagram, Facebook etc.) Don't even stop for a second to consider how this might make you look in her eyes. It's over. Move on and leave her behind. No contact all the way.

That's the first move.

plumo123 · 2018-12-28T15:17:52+00:00

Take a break from work and evaluate the choices you've made in the relationship. Then learn from them. Also, gym, meeting your friends and family. Generally enjoying life as a free man. Plan to take up a hobby, learn a new language.

I personally find breakups quite reflective and overall positive in the long run. They distance you from the infatuation of a relationship and expose the mistakes in your game, behaviour etc.

As much as there is a notion on the red pill that we should be slaying pussy all the time and especially after a breakup, I personally find it useful to stop for a bit, go into a short semi-monk mode and generally find areas to improve. Once I feel I'm ready and refreshed, I get back to game, with usually much better results.

Jumping straight into game, especially after a LTR still keeps your mindset in some of the blue pilled behaviour you naturally adopt, hence your game is lower.

Don_Draper27 · 2018-12-28T18:44:15+00:00

Broke up with an LTR of 5 years 18 months ago.

First thing I did was delete everything from her. All her photos in my phone. All our photos in social media. All the nudes (yes, delete these for sure). I tossed / sold all the gifts she'd given me (except for my Ukulele. I'll never part with it).

I erased her from my life as much as I could. I unfollowed people on social media who would potentially post pictures of her, etc.

5 years with someone is a long time. I'd be lying if I said I didn't cry and that I wasn't borderline regretting my decision, but I stuck it through.

Something important that I did was that I gave anyone I'd be around a heads up. I told my family at home that I'd be a little down for a few days. I even told my co-workers in my office because I knew that my frame was going to be weak so I wanted them to give me space and be understanding, which they were.

I gave myself some time to be alone in my room and digest it, but I was also doing my best to keep myself busy. Hitting the gym, going out, approaching, etc.

2 months after the breakup I got my first plate and it helped keep my mind distracted.

8 months after the breakup, I moved to a different state which helped tremendously with everything in my life. It removed everything that was familiar and it gave my life a spark of excitement and opportunity.

Kasato666 · 2018-12-28T15:33:30+00:00

Don't isolate yourself,spend time with your friends and family.From personal experience,doing calisthenics/going to the gym relieves that mental pain. You will forget her,just give it some time and cut all contacts with her.

Title	Post breakup
Author	ainihon
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	December 28, 2018 3:11 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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