Practical tips for improving conscientiousness?

kranos33 · 2017-11-09T05:05:35+00:00

Make good habbits one by one....

How? Pick one thing that you need to change:

eg. Keep my place clean.... Start doing that. That's your goal from now on.... do it for a couple of months at a row, and it becomes a habbit... it becomes like an automatic reflex and you don't think much about it

Then switch to the next goal: Eg. be on time for things.... that's your number one goal to improve yourself. Challenge yourself not to be late into things, class, appointments, etc.... even for things that are not important (eg. meeting a friend). Reward yourself when you are in time, punish yourself when you don't, (give your self a yellow card if you miss one time, and red if you do, like soccer). When you get a red, you have to ommit something fun from your life as a punishment....

Do that for two more months, and showing up on time becomes an automatic thing. You don't even think about it.

Now, move to the next goal

Most people fail, as they try do to too many things at the same time. Too much change will end up with a mess and confusion, and you are probably going to fail at it.

This is for everything. For the next two months you can start hitting the gym. Thats your next number one goal, (appart work and other life obligations). After that, start dressing well. Get a new wardrobe, etc... etc...

That's how shit happens. 1. Pick an realistic/attainable goal, 2. Work to achieve it diligently, for at least two months until it becomes and ingrained habbit. 3. Reward yourself when you do reach it, punish yourself when you don't. 4. Move to the next one

_the_shape_ · 2017-11-08T19:40:58+00:00

Focus on learning how to listen more often and how to listen more effectively.

Try to step outside of yourself and see if you are more driven to get your point across or to better understand that of others. If the former describes you more accurately, endeavor to strengthen the latter.

kranos33 · 2017-11-09T05:10:40+00:00

Psychology books will tell you that conscientiousness is a stable trait throughout life, and i totally disagree...

I have managed to turn around from a semi-hard working/semi slacker (depending on my mood), into a full efficient disciplined machine....

I have seen in my life plenty of "potheads" and people doing nothing with their lives turning things around 180%, also have seen hard working folks turning into slob messes.... While there is a truth that most hard working folks tend to stay like that, and most lazy folks try to just coast through life, i have seen many many changes of attitude on people, that I believe that if one really wants a change in this department, it can happen.

Anyways, this is one thing that you can absolutely change, but you really want to want it. Anybody that goes through the army, knows it, that you can turn a non disciplined lad, into a fully disciplined and respectful person..... and the vice versa. Somebody that achieved early success in life can start coasting and get lazy and fall behind.

RuminantBearer · 2017-11-08T20:53:01+00:00

Meditating will help you.

Title	Practical tips for improving conscientiousness?
Author	WetWeatherMaster
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Date	November 8, 2017 7:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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