Back to summer 2018, I discovered trp and at the same time I had just started an LTR in the most beta possible way (asking the girl to be exclusive with me, making her the center of my life… and cherry on the top she was virgin). While still in the LTR, I was just lurking the TRP world and reading about the material without putting any of it into practice with the belief that even though it made some sense, it did not apply to everyone. Two months into the relationship, I tore my ligaments playing soccer that and the fact that I was already beginning to be fed up with the relationship and putting with all that bullshit made me realize that being in a relationship is probably not the best idea. On top of that my girlfriend at the time was going on a exchange semester, so everything just lined up and pushed me toward ending the LTR.

To give some context, i am in my late 20s and before this year I could count the number of times I got laid on one hand. But ever since the end of that LTR, I have been trying my best to improve my SMV. Self-improvement, lifting seriously, reading…overall just doing my best to have a better quality of life which I have started to see the benefits almost immediately. So my journey started with me getting into the dating world, getting couples of dates here and there. Mind you at the beginning that my dates were totally catastrophic. Could not hold conversations, did not close even though the girl was showing a lot of interests. Fast forward to today, my SMV has gone up (better dressed, have put on muscles) ... I went from getting 1-2 dates every 2 weeks to 4-5 dates per week. I am currently spinning 2 plates.

Analyzing my recent dates, I have currently found few sticking points which I clearly need to address, and therefore came to the community asking for some concrete examples on how you guys handle these aspects. Obviously, I have already read the sidebar and lot of the content in TRP, just having some trouble putting it into practice:

  1. I have never been a great talker, social person nor creative, I do however know that it is a skill like any other and it needs practice and I have been making tremendous progress on that. But I still feel like in most of my dates I can be boring. how do you address that?

  2. Showing intent, in many of my dates i am good at holding frame but can’t put a sexualized frame where it clear that it is a man to woman interaction

  3. I have I big issue with kino, I have already read about how to escalate but it just does not come natural to me

i know some of these issues are actually very basics when dating but could use some concrete examples

PS: English is not my first language, I tried to do my best to explain the best I can.