push and pull, what is pull?

geology_socks · 2015-04-30T11:44:38+00:00

Pulling comforts her. Pushing gives her the tingles. If you push too hard, she leaves. If you pull too hard, she classifies you as a betabux.

Pull first with plausible deniability. Ask questions. Push when she answers. Let her qualify herself. She'll feel inferior. Then you should pull and escalate when she feels weak.

Most girls respond positively to just pulling. However, some girls think they are top notch vagina and you have to supply the Chad Thundercock tingles.

Edit: I tried to make it as simple as possible. Push / Pull is the basis of a relationship and is much more complex and should be studied accordingly.

IllimitableMan · 2015-04-30T13:22:42+00:00

Push = push her away, break rapport

Pull = pull her in, build rapport

The fucked up thing is the more you push them away, the more you seduce them, so even though you're not friends and they "don't like you" they find you attractive. Most western girls need way more push than pull, and most guys are trying to get laid by just pulling non-stop, making themselves too easy and boring to the woman (women like a man who is a challenge.) When you pull, you're showing kindness/comfort or you're closing the deal after a lot of pushing and saying "I think you're fuckable" - basically pulling is showing any kind of approval, whether that be the asshole telling the chick what she wants to hear after making her think he doesn't like her, or the beta telling her how beautiful she is.

What you have to do is set precedent by doing a lot of pushing, and then escalate sexually by pulling "you know what, maybe you're not like the other girls, maybe I'll give you a chance." When they do what you want you keep pulling, when they shit test, you push back, once the bitchiness is defused, you pull back in. Eventually you'll find you're pulling them onto your cock.

the_number_2 · 2015-04-30T15:41:08+00:00

Great advice in here, but don't forget about literally pushing and pulling.

For example, if I'm talking in a group and the girl makes a goofy comment or asks a stupid question, I'll mock her a bit then push her a few feet away and say something like, "I don't think I can associate with you anymore" in a coy, joking, cocky way. Give her a look like you both know you're playing around, but she also knows you're going to keep her on her toes.

Once she takes the hint, grab her hand and pull her back in, but real close, arm around her, so she kind of gets the hint that she's back in but only because you let her.

FrameWalker · 2015-04-30T14:35:59+00:00

Fantastic question. There are many sides to push/pull. Gelology and IM hit the nail on the head.

Using push pull with escalation is great for reducing LMR and building deep attraction. Push them away from you physically, playfully. Especially the first time she touches you first. Break it push her off and say get off me. 9/10 times she comes back harder. Each time you let her get a little closer until the two of you are undressed and you're inside her.

Think of a little girl running towards her father, that's the state you put her in. You want to get her gushing and jumping up and down when you enter the room.

Giving straight answers to questions is pulling. Touching her gently is pulling. Ie arm around her, holding her hand, playing with her hair. Being polite is pulling. Compliments are pulling. Smiling is pulling. Paying attention is pulling.

Lying through your teeth is pushing. Escalating hard physically and verbally is pushing (and polarizing). Grabbing her butt, pulling her hair, grabbing her tits, makeout within minutes of meeting. Saying rude things is pulling (careful some girls are sensitive so you've gotta be really loud and cocky to make it fun) Downtalk. Pummeling her with questions and not giving feedback. Ignoring is pushing. Mocking is pushing. Disqualifying is pushing. Backhanded compliments pushing.

The key is feeling out the situation. The best push and pulls are so subtle they fly under the radar. The warmer she is, the harder you can pull. You want to be louder than her always, but only 2/3 as warm so start in push mode by default.

Title	push and pull, what is pull?
Author	CuriousErnestBrine
Upvotes	8
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Date	April 30, 2015 11:20 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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