Push back on self improvement from others

_Legendairy_ · 2019-09-20T22:28:28+00:00

They’re crabs in a bucket.

Think of it this way: if they’re not improving then they’re the retards, not you for improving.

FinancialThanks1 · 2019-09-20T22:28:11+00:00

Don’t let them change your mind. Don’t be mad at them they’re just pussies

AloofusMaximus · 2019-09-20T22:50:27+00:00

It's usually envy. Most people aren't even capable of trying to make themselves better.

GOT had a great quite that applies here... A lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep.

Rx_Red · 2019-09-21T01:11:56+00:00

Because a lot of people do not believe they can improve their circumstances or value with specific steps (why do you work out so much) and have poor discipline and only seek what is pleasurable (rice tastes bad).

Just say, "I have goals I am trying to meet". Or "it feels good being healthy". You'll get these responses no matter what because so many people are such defeatists who can't see or don't care if their life stagnates at just average

Honestly, just do you, because you'll never run out of these people in life

juggernaut_child · 2019-09-21T04:05:49+00:00

This is probably evolutionarily rooted in competition for resources and anxiety. By raising your SMV, you are posing a competitive threat to their survival as you are consuming more resources and raising your potential to consume more resources. Thus, you can cue the anxiety involved in the crab-bucket mindset.

IXseed · 2019-09-21T04:20:32+00:00

Fuck em. Do you.

Ppl tend to hate what they "think" they can't do. And if you're getting shit for it you're prolly doing REALLY well. Keep it up.

willieblackbean · 2019-09-21T05:25:10+00:00

Let them laugh at you, then they'll ridicule you then they will start to compliment you and eventually see you as an inspiration

thrwy75479 · 2019-09-21T07:24:05+00:00

Most people are saying don't say anything, focus on yourself, things equivalent to taking the high road.

Problem is, the high road works if you don't have to see them too often, or ever again. If there's frequent contact, and you're dealing with people that are relentless, after a while, ignoring doesn't work. At that point, anger can build up, and if you hold it in, it can lead to anxiety, and depression because you're not expressing yourself.

Jocko Willink has a good discussion about this. Using the analogy of a dog, you don't want to bite. However, ideally, before it gets to the point where it's grating on you, you want to deal with it by barking a bit.

It's good to throw some heat back, and important to know how. The only way to learn is to do:

"why do you work out so much?"; "why're you such a fatass?"
"Why do you eat rice it taste bad"; "so does your sister's pussy"

If they get angry, great. It shows you their weakness. You could poke them the same way if they act up again.

However, done the right way, and in the right amount, you'll gain respect from others, and the bond with the person being passive aggressive may actually improve. This is because they probably perceive you as arrogant, since you don't acknowledge what they're saying.

Basically, they're looking for a bit of attention and love. Talking shit shows you're not above fighting, and you're not ignoring them, which may make them feel better, and perhaps even seek your help.

LatePillSwallower · 2019-09-21T02:10:09+00:00

Just be honest - I workout because I like it why else would I do it?

I eat rice because I like it etc

huey764 · 2019-09-21T02:55:45+00:00

Bruh rice is fucking bomb af. I cant eat it tho smh

Title	Push back on self improvement from others
Author	Aymane221
Upvotes	7
Comments	28
Date	September 20, 2019 10:23 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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