Just "swallowed the red pill" and to mark the occasion I though I would ask some of the more experienced guys here about how they personally escalate physicality.

A few days ago I went to a female coworkers house(I know bad idea right?) to watch a movie we had already gone on a "date" and in my opinion it was terrible but I could tell she was into me and wanted to have sex, anyway the first day nothing ended up happening (mostly due to the fact that I was too insanely stoned and didn't even want to escalate but the second day we were watching a movie and we ended up cuddling from there I ended up caressing her and ended up playing with her tits (it was awful think ziplock baggies half full of some sort of strange gelatin) and I even got so far as fingering her before she put up LMR and I lost interest anyway. I really don't even want to bang this girl anymore to be honest but want to use it as a learning experience as my physical escalation left ALOT to be desired and a girl that was only half into me probably wouldn't have put up with it lol. So for you experienced players out there how do you usually escalate? Do you have some sort of generally script or do you just kinda play it by ear?