Reaching my breaking point.

secret_barber · 2015-08-11T17:37:11+00:00

"If you don't stop acting so cute I'm going to push you up against the wall and kiss you!"

This is weak as fuck. You KNOW she doesn't want to fuck you. You KNOW it. Getting aggressive with her is only going to make you look like a fool. She is absolutely going to reject you. The alpha move, the man with options, he would quietly remove her from his life ...move on to better things, without any dramatic nonsense.

RunawayGrain · 2015-08-11T17:38:47+00:00

The push her up against the wall thing sounds a little rape-y, and if she didn't like it or regretted it later she could really do you some legal and social damage. It just sounds like a bad idea.

Go no contact for a while. She will contact and you should ignore if not permanently, then at least for a few weeks. If a chick sees you trying to break orbit, she will make some attempt to keep you there. Ignore that attempt. If anyone asks about what's going on with you two, be positive and don't put her down.

I really do like this girl as a friend but I don't think I can take it any more.

If she were just a friend, you wouldn't care. If you are at the point you can't take it any more, she isn't a friend, she's a chick you want to bang that isn't putting out. Have some respect for yourself, and get out of there.

machimus · 2015-08-11T17:06:02+00:00

I physically cringed. This is a terrible idea. Just fade her out.

Muddpup64 · 2015-08-11T16:35:03+00:00

Yes you are just pussying out. Yes you might crash and burn the whole thing. No i won't reassure you that orbiting is right

btharmony · 2015-08-11T17:53:41+00:00

tell her how you feel..take her out to an expensive dinner and have a one to one conversation....I'm just kidding. Remove her from your life. Hard next her and if she comes crawling back you set the terms. If she doesn't agree, you go your own way and realize you never had a chance with her..but you have a chance with tons of better, hotter women.

beachbloke · 2015-08-11T17:54:28+00:00

No, this is all bad news buddy. You are not valuable to her sexually and she has demonstrated that by orbiterizing you. Just move on. Cut contact. If she tries to reorbiterize you, tell her you'll only talk to her if making out is involved. After that, she will never talk to you again, but at least you will be a shitty alpha in her eyes and she'll tell all her friends, who might want to know what you're about.

MeatCurtainRod · 2015-08-11T22:04:54+00:00

My question to you is; why the hell are you complementing her? You aren't calling her out on her bullshit at all. As others are saying, your statement is weak. Stop the orbiting as it completely kills your chances. And no, she isn't flirting with you. You need to back up and re-evaluate.

slcjosh · 2015-08-11T22:52:50+00:00

Cut contact with her. It is really that simple.

djronnieg · 2015-08-11T22:53:01+00:00

Become a ghost.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-08-11T18:14:26+00:00

"If you don't stop acting so cute I'm going to push you up against the wall and kiss you!"

Gay.

I really like this idea but am admittedly uneasy about it.

That's called "fear of rejection".

Things I need to keep in mind while doing this?

Abundance mentality, don't put the pussy on a pedestal, don't let a girl waste your time and resources, orbiting sucks. Things like that.

Am I just pussying out?

Yes.

Any help would be great, thanks.

Have you ever tried to kiss her, ever, or did you just hang around for a year, hoping she would 'notice' you?

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-08-11T18:19:17+00:00

You can either get it all out at once and know for sure if this girl is interested, or you can keep orbiting her and giving her all kinds of special attention and favors while you get literally nothing in return. Your call.

ChrisBenRoy · 2015-08-11T21:04:38+00:00

"There's no reason to have girls as friends that you're not fucking."

Title	Reaching my breaking point.
Author	Muddpup64
Upvotes	6
Comments	19
Date	August 11, 2015 4:25 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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