Sup guys.

I've recently found myself with a case of oneitis that has proven harder to beat than I figured it would be. I just did some searching around the TRP wiki and the side bar and I haven't seen any one comprehensive oneitis page that is answering my questions.

If somebody could point me in the right direction or give me some oneitis advice I'd appreciate it.

A little background about my situation:

I'm a senior in university who's never had a hard time landing women. At the time I met this girl last March (I'll call her Nancy), I was sleeping with three or four other women and entirely disinterested in getting serious with any of them. Regardless, something felt different about Nancy. Over the next few months I dropped the other women to focus on Nancy. I fell for this girl somehow. I resisted it every step of the way but still ended up caught like a rat in a trap. Over our entire interaction, I was more invested than she was - justifying it to myself with an idea that I wanted to be a reacher and not a settler. I went from feeling like an alpha to a beta over night.

We slept together for a few months and when I moved away for the summer we tried to keep it going (I was visiting every couple weeks) but it started to taper off on her end. The way I'm seeing it, she caught on that I was hers to play with, and I was suddenly less interesting to her. Eventually, I reluctantly ended things with Nancy because I was not willing to put up with some of the weird shit she started to pull (I'm happy to elaborate if it would help - nothing too crazy). I think me ending it surprised her. Overall it ended on pretty good terms. We both agreed that we might talk about getting back together in the future.

Anyways, Nancy moved away at the end of the summer just in time for me to move back and I basically held myself to a weak no contact policy. (I don't contact her but when I hear from her I sometimes respond - depending on the form of contact) She says she wants to catch up, or to grab a drink when I'm in the town she lives in now. Sometimes she just says she hopes I'm doing well. I respond about half the time. We've spoken only a few times since August.

Since ending things with her, I've told myself that I wouldn't let Nancy bring me down, and in many ways I haven't. I got back to spinning plates in no time. I'm sleeping with five different girls at the moment, all of which are as good or better looking than Nancy. I'm confident, (mostly) happy, and totally in control of my current sex life. Except for one problem - about once every two or three days, Nancy finds her way back into my mind and it genuinely bums me out. I'm fucking all these beautiful women, and yet somehow it isn't quite as fun as it used to be. They somehow aren't as fun to be around as being with Nancy was.

So to pull it all back together, I'm not devastated, desperate, or heard-broken. I'm frustrated and disappointed in myself. I don't want to care about this girl. She isn't actually anything special and I know it's all in my mind, but I just cant quite override my infatuation with her.

Tell me what to do and I'll do it. Or if I'm missing some previous post that tells me what to do then just point me that way. I appreciate all the help.

TLDR: Went from alpha chad to beta betsy over some girl at my university. I ended it because I wasn't in control and she was taking advantage of that. Now I'm fucking lots of girls again but this one I fell for is still weighing heavily on my mind.