Replying to affectionate texts

alphakari · 2020-01-01T02:27:01+00:00

Some guys are just like "logistics only bro." Personally, I think that leaves a lot on the table, cause texting is so low investment and is a good way to cause dread in other women who see you do it.

Here's how I go about texting as a whole.

I'm consistently inconsistent. If she's expecting a mushy response, she's not getting one. If she's expect a teasy response, maybe I'll just be short and logistical. If she is a little too certain I'm going to respond fast, I respond slow. If she expects a slow response, I give a fast one. I do this see saw b.s because it makes texting me funner for the girl. Try not to just switch it up too much though. You don't want her to assume nothing. You want her to assume something and at that moment is when something switches.

This seems plug and play, but you have to actually know what she's expecting. If it's too hard to figure her out (some girls just ain't texters), I just do logistics via text, calls and video calls otherwise. I also don't lead with too much texting. It develops toward that around 1-2 month plate status.

So in the case of the mushy text, the reason she sent you the mushy text is important. She isn't just sending you shit outta nowhere. Maybe she's nervous after fucking and it's lowkey a comfort test. Maybe she's baiting for you to reciprocate because she wants attention. Or maybe she fucked another dude and now she's compensating by being mushy with you. The devil is in the details, and there's a skill in being able to probe for which of these it is.

But realistically the cocky answer is the best catch all. So yeah if you don't fucking know, just do that. That or match her emotional commitment but be a little vaguer like you're confused by your feelings or some shit.

AND NEVER EVER surpass the emotional commitment she gives to you. Because all this shit is built on the assumption you're better than her. If you surpass her emotional commitment she'll feel super comfy and then right after that she'll take it for granted on some "Is this guy actually better than me?" It's not the worst thing to match it with certain girls though.

jaxkhk · 2020-01-01T03:44:27+00:00

This is an an LTR

SpicyYeetJuice · 2020-01-01T02:27:26+00:00

This is a very slippery slope in my opinion I’d reciprocate and I’d take it that you know where to draw the line. You don’t stand to lose much by reciprocating but if you don’t show any emotion she’s going to think you don’t have a connection and she gonna think you’re just trying to get in her pants

and she’s a fuck buddy then I’d reply with something obnoxious

lolomotif12 · 2020-01-01T01:51:58+00:00

Depends on the girl.

LTR: bare minimum just to make her feel it's mutual. Never ever express more than the female.

Plate: reply with a playful and joking reply without expressing emotion so she knows where she stands and not to get into habit.

FWB: Fuck all, strictly sex talk.

CodingE · 2020-01-01T07:50:15+00:00

Happy cake day :)

Title	Replying to affectionate texts
Author	jaxkhk
Upvotes	14
Comments	11
Date	January 1, 2020 1:33 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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