So I have two girls on the go. One thinks I'm exclusive. It's complicated but for reasons a little while back she led me to believe otherwise.

I'll name the girls Danielle and Stacy. Danielle and I started off as fuck buddies. It pretty quickly escalated into exclusive fuck buddies. After passing her flailing shit tests for a while we both started seeing each other more often. She started putting in more effort for an upgrade and I became much more invested. Despite red flags, I now have strong feelings towards Danielle and am considering giving her an upgrade.

The other girl I have on – Stacy, is solely here because of Danielle. Danielle is a single mum and consequently, her shit tests were massive. To prevent myself from getting shit on during the heavy testing faze by accidentally developing too much investment for her (and effecting my outcome interdependent mentality) I picked up Stacy as a fall back/ second fuck buddy. I had suspected Danielle of having slept with someone else at this time and Danielle had implied we were no longer exclusive so adding Stacy to the harem seemed okay. Since doing it, Danielle and I have escalated significantly. We started spending most weekends together and I even started doubling up with and interacting with her kids. She pushed for more beta commitment, bonding tendencies and when I obliged it was received incredibly well. We now see eachother every few days at the least and text almost on a daily basis. I try to keep my rp theory and limited attention in mind but I have found myself in an onset of oneitus. Danielle has also begun strongly implying our former exclusivity and even asked me if I was seeing other girls. I have grown extremely uncomfortable with seeing Stacy, to the point of not being able to get an erection around her. I have also begun to flake under the pressure of seeing two girls at once. Danielle's shit tests regarding my interactions with other girls now compel me to instinctively lie instead of agree and amplify/ brush them of with a typical shit eating grin. It seems to be unviable.

My current thinking is to friend zone or completely break it off with Stacy and then work hard with myself to uninvest in while continuing to see Danielle without an immediate upgrade. All the while continuing to spend time with other girls without actively intending to fuck them as my source of approach practise and abundance.

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