Sad

TRPCops · 2020-08-03T23:04:17+00:00

This isn't your diary and rule 1. Instead of banning you I'll just say you need to stop being a faggot and your life is the product of the choices you've made. Getting out of it is also a choice. Depression is cyclical. If you did ANYTHING productive with yourself, it goes away.

22 is not past prime, that's retarded Blackpill bullshit. Ever read the shrimp guy story?

Secret_Twitch · 2020-08-03T21:48:42+00:00

The past is just a story you tell yourself. It doesn’t mean shit. All that you really have is right now, today, tomorrow, the future!!! You recognize that you have wasted some time. Don’t waste anymore.

halleluiaiaia9292 · 2020-08-03T21:53:09+00:00

Are you expecting some sort of validation here?

We have all hit rock bottom at some point. Some of us bite the bullet and do what we have to do to fix our lives. Others fire the bullet.

Its your choice.

wheeets · 2020-08-04T01:11:21+00:00

Im gonna take pity on you because ive been there, but most people are gonna tell you a) to stop being a bitch, & b) no one wants to hear your problems especially when they know you arent even trying.

However I'm going to share with you a few ideas that a friend shared with me when i was in a similar situation/mindset. I was very depressed and suicidal for several years. I too was not making any progress. My friend suggested i stop allowing myself to be a victim. My friend recommended i be at "cause" instead of at "effect". How do you do this. The answer is simple, and if you decide to apply it, i can damn near guarantee you'll see vast improvements in 6 months, if not sooner. The simple advice is this: Take responsibility for every facet of your life. Here's the thing about taking responsibility. As i stated earlier its a simple concept, although just because its simple doesnt mean its easy. You'll have to practice at it. Thats what i did. Started with a few tasks on my agenda, as simple as preparing my backpack for tomorrow with everything I'd need for the day, to getting on a diet and losing 95 lbs, to going back to school for something I'm passionate about, to starting my own business serving my community. Grant Cardone says the more you do, the more you can do. The same thing with taking responsibility. Once you start setting the "future you" up for success by taking responsibility for the little things in your life and eventually larger things, you'll find the light out of the darkness.

I have a strange belief I subscribe to. Most people choose to believe that when they die they'll wake up in some eternal bliss or eternal torment, while others choose to believe that they won't wake to anything at all. I choose to believe something very similar but vastly different. I think you and i will relive every day we've ever lived or ever will live. When the universe is done expanding it'll collapse back in on itself, and when it does it'll expand again. And when it expands every day will be exactly the same. All of your days will happen to you over and over again forever. So my advice to you is to get it right this time around because this time is all you have. (This belief is probably wrong, as most if not all beliefs are, but its powerful if you decide to subscribe to it).

Start taking responsibility for every aspect you can. If you need to find a friend, an easy way is to get a job. If you want to attract women, start eating healthy and working out. If you know you need to go back to school then decide to go for something that you're really passionate about. If you dont know what you're passionate about you have to try different things to figure that shit out. What do you like to watch on YouTube, what channels do you subscribe to on ig. Try something, anything. If you dont like it stop doing it if you do like it, keep at it till you don't like it anymore, if that never happens maybe you should try to make money from it, go to school for it, become an ace at it, people get paid by others because they're good if not great at a skill.

Here's where many slip up. Quit stopping yourself from trying something just because you don't know how to do it. You're gonna suck at everything the first few times you try something. Dont let that stop you. Keep going until you're good enough at it to decide whether its really for you or not. You have to make the decision to take responsibility and follow up that decision with action.

Oh and when you finally save yourself, which eventually i believe you'll do (as i did), remember to take pity on some other bitch that hasnt gotten it together yet and share your own message of taking responsibility with them

yoitsericc · 2020-08-04T12:20:23+00:00

2 years ago my ex left me, took my kid and got a restraining order against me.

Today I have a good job, full custody of my son and am a homeowner in a nice neighborhood.

Bottom line - I don't feel sorry for you. Take charge and become passionate about something you can succeed at. Your rock bottom sounds like a cake walk compared to mine.

MindlessCalendar · 2020-08-04T16:14:42+00:00

feels like any effort I make will be infinitesimally dwarfed by the amount of irreparable damage I've done to myself

You are only 22. Most guys at 22 are still autistic and don't know what they want in life.

I used to have potential

That potential is still there if you actually put in the work. That's the key part. Putting in the work.

I want to succeed, but I don't know how

By taking it one step at a time. Go back to school or get a job (or both). Start making friends at college/work. Start saving up to move out. Start going to the gym and working out. Start eating clean, start sleeping better, start a bulk/cut. Start approaching girls. All the things you already know you have to do but are too lazy to actually do.

If you would stop crying and put in even a little bit of effort you would not be in this situation. Keep crying or actually try to improve your life. The choice is yours.

Title	Sad
Author	gRRMrEBORN
Upvotes	0
Comments	12
Date	August 3, 2020 9:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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