Which mind set do you usually adopt? I feel both have merits.

Going into a first date with the mindset that you will take her home and fuck obviously has its benefits. But I cant help but feel a bit crushed when it doesn't happen.

Whereas when my expectations are low, its far easier to have a DGaF attitude and be outcome independent. And not appear as 'thirsty', not sure if that's good or not?

Guys I thought I had my shit together. Last night I had a 2nd date with a girl I thought was going to be a slam dunk. Everything went great until she said she couldn't come back to mine (same as 1st). And i'm really disappointed with myself because I let it make me feel depressed, frustrated and dejected.