Should I flake?

premeboi · 2018-11-07T09:19:14+00:00

the virgin baseball vs. the chad badminton

derrtderr · 2018-11-07T07:00:33+00:00

How embarrassed are you that you redacted the name of the sport?

residentlifter · 2018-11-07T05:39:53+00:00

Dude she doesn’t have to drop everything for you. I don’t really understand this notion around here that women will drop their lives for a man they just met if they’re attracted to him. Just like with us, our lives were going on long before a woman comes into the picture. And it will continue to go on when they are out of it.

HumptyDumptyFellHard · 2018-11-07T07:34:19+00:00

I would apply dread. She clearly wasn’t interested enough to hangout within you suggested. Now all of a sudden she wants to? Apply that shit. Don’t text her for a couple of days(logistics only either way). Maybe a week then ask her again to hang.

aominidaiki · 2018-11-07T06:19:20+00:00

From this conversation, it appears she's the one with the upper hand. Her denial of your suggestions is purely a way of dismissing you. Now that is either because you haven't established yourself as a strong candidate in her head or either its just a test she's throwing at you. My take on this is to ghost her till she comes back. Just ignore her, don't reply. Have the abundance mentality.

toothottotrot · 2018-11-07T06:25:34+00:00

It's possible she was playing hard to get to see if you would go "PLEEEEZZZ COME PLAY BASEBALL!!!" and that when you seemed indifferent if she came out or not she agreed to meet you...IT'S POSSIBLE.

Could also be she really was busy, but either got freed up or decided what she was doing could wait.

Sounds like you're still in the anger phase or right after it when you're starting to see some results, and that you haven't completely accepted the fact that all women are going to shit test you (which is what you think she was doing) to some degree, and that it is an IOI, AKA a good thing. If it was a shit test, then congratulations... you passed! Whatever her reason was for changing her mind about meeting you, it doesn't matter, she is agreeing to meet you which is what you wanted right? In scenario 1 you demonstrated value by passing her shit test, in scenario 2 she was/is interested in you and either was freed up from prior obligations or decided you were more important than them. Why flake because of your pride and anger, which might be from you just overthinking things, when all that will do is prevent you from getting what you originally wanted from pursuing this chick? I say go swing the *redacted* with this chick this Saturday.

821sleepingbag · 2018-11-07T05:57:27+00:00

THis is so dumb read the sidebar material

DadOnDabs · 2018-11-07T15:55:14+00:00

You brought something of value to the table and now she's interested. It's not because you were busy. if you wanna meet then meet. If not then don't.

4gliders · 2018-11-07T05:39:49+00:00

Maybe call her out? Idk tbh

Title	Should I flake?
Author	self-medicate
Upvotes	10
Comments	43
Date	November 7, 2018 5:15 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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