Should I or shouldn't I?

PinkfloydPurplefloyd · 2013-08-10T13:31:56+00:00

Dude that is a very bad fucking idea. Back in my late teens I too used to play out these little movies in my head about how my plates would react to my smooth lines and oh boy would I seem so in tune and alpha in my own imagination. Spoiler alert I came off like an autist, and while our situations are not the same, I really do not want you to suffer this potential embarrassment. Lets try analyse this.

Firstly,

I'm aware of the perils of one-itis, but never the less I can't seem to shake the strong feelings I have for my ex

You're hamstering. Read the following sentence in quotation marks in a female voice: "I'm aware of the perils of LIKING JERKS, but never the less I can't seem to shake the strong feelings I have for HIM" You have one-itis and you can't admit it to yourself. Advice: Cut her loose. Women are common, you can find a new one.

Secondly,

We've decided to stay 'just-friends' and I refuse to become an orbiter

You are already an orbiter by agreeing to be her 'friend' lol.

And lastly, this is what I am most concerned with, these little 'situations' you play out.

" her name , smile if you still fancy me." (She'll smile) "Good, then we're not just friends, even if that's what you think. Let's go fuck for old times sake."

She's not going to smile lol, you framed yourself to her as an orbiter. Maybe if you aggressively escalate without these scripted lines and deftly destroy the "lets just be frennnndddddddddz shit test, you will end up boning her. But I would not recommend it as even then you are going to have to give her specific ways to rationalise her fucking you post coitus because she is going to regret it.

In conclusion: SPIN MORE PLATES. If this is not possible then in future when ever you have a question concerning women, always ask yourself "If I was fucking 5 other gorgeous girls on the side, what would I do?" and do that. Short term pain = long term happiness.

_whistler · 2013-08-10T15:14:00+00:00

A man goes after what he wants, but he also needs to make sure that what he wants is good for him.

[deleted] · 2013-08-10T23:32:40+00:00

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[deleted] · 2013-08-10T16:03:36+00:00

Fuck her if you have to but don't get back with her.

[deleted] · 2013-08-10T20:16:23+00:00

You wouldn't buy a car if it was the only one you had test-driven, right?

Go fuck three other girls.

If you're still wrapped up with this one after that, you'll be in a much better headspace for reclaiming her effectively.

(protip: you won't.)

neXianXavia · 2013-08-15T13:01:27+00:00

Grow some balls dude.

Don't go out with her, don't give her your attention, and for gods sake, stop being her friend. It's a terrible idea, and you probably still feel low value because she dumped you, so that makes it an even worse idea.

You've got the oneitis. Reject her. Walk away. You're deluding yourself by having an image in your mind of her that is drastically different to her in real life. That's the definition of oneitis. You've just gotta calm the fuck down and shake the sparkles off yourself, cause she sure as hell isn't a fairy.

Next, go make yourself valuable, gym, hobby, etc.

If she starts to miss your attention and want you back? That's when you demand sex. If she contacts you, reply with "Fuck me."

If she says no, don't reply again. If she doesn't take you seriously, don't reply again. Your time is worth more (or hopefully will be worth more) than that.

Title	Should I or shouldn't I?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	10
Comments	15
Date	August 10, 2013 12:54 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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