Should I tried something else ? Problems with physical escalation and lmr

[deleted] · 2013-11-29T17:06:46+00:00

Could you be a bit clearer about what the problem is? If the problem is that you go beta when it comes to sex, youve got two options. Reframe the sex (if its passive, make it aggressive. apply that logic), or go all the way (d&s. just dont expect her to call you again after, itd be a one off).

_whistler · 2013-11-29T17:35:05+00:00

Here are some notes.

I almost have to run to catch up with her (is it me or do pretty girls walk faster than normal ?).

Issue #1. You broke frame by pursuing her, rather than holding your ground, getting her attention, and attracting her to you. Walking toward her if she's walking away is fine, but instead of running to catch up, try getting her attention vocally and make her come to you, or meet you halfway.

We get to my dorm room and we watch a movie. We start cuddling during the movies. After a while, I go for the kiss but she pulls away. I brush it off and continue watching the movie.

After the movie, we lay in bed for a while. I try to escalate and/or kiss, but she stops every time. And then after a while, she gets this look on her face like "Do something nigga". I then go in for the kiss or something else, but she pulls away. This patterns repeats it self several times.

Yeah, this is the shitty thing about dorm rooms. Work with what you have, but my rule of thumb is: the bed is for sex and sleep. Nothing else. If a woman is in my bed, she's either naked or in the process of becoming naked. That's the association I want in her head: my bed = her pussy getting pounded.

If the bed is the absolute only place for you to sit and watch a movie in your dorm room, there are a couple of things you could try. First, if you share the room and your roomie isn't home (which he shouldn't be, take care of those logistics), watch the movie in his bed. You can use this is a miniature venue change by pointing out something about your bed that will lead her to want to get in it (it's more comfortable, check out my awesome sheets/pillow, closer to the window, whatever). She stands up, and you lay down the rules - playfully. Gotta abide by the house rules though, honey. This bed here's for watching movies, but that bed over there...let me help you out of that sweater. Something.

Or maybe that's not an option, and you can't break past the LMR during the flick. In that case, once the movie's over you stand up. You don't linger by her side in your bed, hopeful the fair maiden might continue to just breath in your direction like a lovelorn Beta. You stand up and you do something else. If she stays in your bed for more than a few seconds, it's a signal. If she stretches back and exposes her tummy under her shirt and holds this pose for a bit, it's an invitation. If she gets up, this is when the Push part of push/pull comes in. Well, time to wrap it up. See ya around Pause. As she's on her way out the door: Before you go, one more thing... and here comes that Pull - you grab her by her belt/top of the pants, reel her in and caveman kiss her. Use your judgement from there.

AfterC · 2013-11-29T19:41:25+00:00

You needed to build up more attraction beforehand.

And try a freeze out if she's cold to your physical advances.

She's not interested. Next.

Doomsday_ · 2013-11-30T23:21:11+00:00

Seems to me that you probably got LMR because you didn't build enough rapport with her. Mystery has a concept called "the 7-hour rule," which is that it usually takes between 4 to 10 hours (avg. 7) of time spent with a woman before she'll be comfortable having sex with you.

Banging a girl in less time is the exception rather than the rule, and is considered "fool's mate." Also even if you do get the bang earlier the girl will often have "buyer's remorse" and you won't fuck her again.

So in the future you can try spending more time on other activities before going for movie+f-close. Maybe take a walk and/or hang out in public for a while first. If you get into isolation with a girl too soon, there will be pressure on you to make a move before she's ready, and she'll leave and you won't see her again.

Title	Should I tried something else ? Problems with physical escalation and lmr
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Date	November 29, 2013 4:20 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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