Slut shaming hipocrisy?

tombreck2 · 2014-10-11T18:29:52+00:00

It is laughably easy for a woman to get laid; she can go to a bar, sit by herself and will have men approaching her all night.

For a man to get laid it takes charisma, social savviness and he must be better than his competition.

-Tyler_Durden- · 2014-10-12T02:17:15+00:00

Most men don't slut shame; other women slut shame because it lowers the value of sex. Think of a union worker shaming a scab for working $5/hr lower than union wage. The employer won't shame the scab for working cheaper, the other workers will.

Wise men just realize that there are two main types of women. Those who are good LTR material and those who are not. Sluts do not make good wives or mothers; but, they are fun as hell. Remember, just because a man won't promote a plate to LTR status doesn't mean that he thinks she is a bad person.

TheSKSpecial · 2014-10-11T21:39:00+00:00

This topic comes up once a week, it seems.

No one here says don't sleep with women with high partner counts, they say don't commit to them. They're not LTR/marriage material. Think about it; 20, 30, 50, however many men saw fit to fuck her, and nobody's committed to her yet? They know something about her you don't? Should be setting off some warning bells in your head.

If you want to have one-nighters and fuck around, then go for it. Fuck the slutty chicks. But wanting more from them is a fool's errand. If you're looking for a woman for more than sex, then you should look for the "innocent uninfluenced girl".

Fantastical14 · 2014-10-11T19:45:58+00:00

I agree it is a bit of a hypocritical argument. As /u/tombreck2 mentioned, it is considerably easier for a woman to have sex. Remember that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of relationships.

If you think about it in another light, how many male acquaintances would you expect to overestimate their sexual partner count? How many female acquaintances would you expect to underestimate their count? Or better yet, not even be willing to tell you? See slut shaming.

It really depends what you value in life. If getting laid is all you want, a low partner count doesn't matter. If you value a long term relationship, a low partner count is favorable.

There was a study done a while back relating female sexual partner counts and divorce rates. I can't find a link to the study but this page summarizes it fairly adequately: http://socialpathology.blogspot.ca/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html

alreadyredschool · 2014-10-11T18:18:30+00:00

Key and lock analogy?

The sluts are only bad when you are looking for an LTR, then choose a low partner count girl. If you want one night stands then it doesn't matter. SNLs are easier with experienced girls.

rporion · 2014-10-11T22:29:33+00:00

Horses for courses.

No rings for sluts.

oldredder · 2014-10-12T21:26:40+00:00

I think you're not reading carefully enough. Women with a very high sex-partner count are great for more sex and horrible for commitment or trust. So when you want just sex this is good and when you want commitment this is very bad.

It's not "all good" or "all bad" so there's no contradiction. You decide what you want.

There is no reason to be resentful.

"look for inexperienced good girl who will be less trouble to deal with"

Never have I seen this here. Ever. All women are trouble to deal with. Doesn't matter what they have for life experience, sexual experience or who you are. A key to game is also ensuring you minimize the trouble this actually causes you. Holding alpha-frame is a kind of relationship jujitsu where you deflect incidental or intended damage back at her or otherwise just away from your emotional frame & any plans/stability you have in your life.

Summary: what doesn't make sense is your list of conclusions because they don't match what's actually written here.

Title	Slut shaming hipocrisy?
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Date	October 11, 2014 6:04 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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