I had discovered TRP around a year and a bit ago when I was 17 and began my obsession with self improvement immediately. I got into the gym and went from 138lbs to 180 at 5'11, my bench now sits at 240lbs. I began a skin care routine and cleared up all of my acne, I got a haircut that suits my face shape and improved my style. I then also lifted my grades and quit video games and smoking/drinking completely.
After I had done all this, I began getting stares from girls at school, two girls who had just broken up with their boyfriends sat next to me and actually went out of their way to squeeze my arms and telling me that I look buff. One even said that she thinks I would be a good fuck. However, my personality is extremely outgoing, over the top I would say and most would describe me as a 'clown.' I look to be funny and seek validation, I know this of me, my game is extremely off and I say extremely off putting things to girls.
My game/frame is extremely off, I say things to girls that turn them off entirely, in no way am I masculine, my insecurities reflect through my communication, when I want to flirt with girls I outright insult them instead and I never escalate or touch them. After I had tried gaming those two girls, they were completely turned off and now no longer even look at me. How can I establish a dominant frame and improve my game? I know the common advice here is talk to more girls but with every girl I do the same, it kind of reinforces my behaviour and it needs correcting. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks!
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