So what did I do wrong?

DiscordantMonk · 2018-07-18T15:42:34+00:00

Plate her and continue your life mission.

Styrofoam505 · 2018-07-18T16:00:19+00:00

1st: I have a boyfriend is a shit test. If she brought it up your job is to always be unphased and disarm/amplify it, without triggering her asd.

Ex: "You should come back to my place and check out my sweet goldfish, dudes a gangsta." "I have a boyfriend" "Cool should invite him over too my fish is fucking dope"

2nd: Have abundance mentality (or fake it until you do). If she's saying she's gotta go and you are out of plays in preventing it, make sure you give the vibe that her leaving is no big deal, and that you have other prospects. Just reading your reactions it makes me think after she said she had a boyfriend and was leaving, you dropped the spaghetti and just froze up and became awkward about it, thus justifying her shit test.

FixYourselfFirst · 2018-07-18T18:52:55+00:00

Q: So what did I do wrong?

A: I was drunk and had 0 idea how to take her home.

redhawkes · 2018-07-18T16:07:24+00:00

I talked some bullshit about how her feelings does matter and stuff.

You put yourself in the emotional tampon zone aka stepped on your own dick.

After that you triggered her ASD. Good plausible deniability would be asking her to your place to finish what you've started aka getting drunk, then go from there.

Actions over words always. Game other chicks and put this one on soft next until she initiates.

rationalityiskey · 2018-07-18T17:33:51+00:00

Nothing. It's not the "what," it's the "how." You still don't have abundance mindset if you're here asking about what specific thing you did wrong to improve. If you want the answer to that, here it is: It's because you forcefully tried to close her when it didn't feel natural to you to do so (you kind of got lost and had no idea how to take her home - this is indication that you yourself didn't feel ready) and the girl sensed that. It is that bit of hesitation.

However, putting all that aside, all I emphasize on is not the hesitation, but where that hesitation stems from. It's a lack of True abundance mentality where you don't give a rat's ass whether you successfully pulled her or not. Yes you could have or have not taken her home, but you shouldn't care anyway. She rejected you? What's the big deal. Just shrug it off and move on.

Mojiitoo · 2018-07-18T20:07:11+00:00

Kind of interesting to show her.

Yeah well that can kind come off weird. Girls need an excuse to justify to themselves that they are coming home with you.

Next time say something like 'lets get a tosti/leftover food/pizza at my place' or something else more specific. But in the end its about how you deliver it to her; be confident, teasing and not needy about it.

holykeeper24 · 2018-07-19T06:44:08+00:00

Update: she added me in a messenger today. How can I invite her somewhere without neediness? What should I say?

Title	So what did I do wrong?
Author	holykeeper24
Upvotes	5
Comments	35
Date	July 18, 2018 3:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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