Strategy advice?

Hello brothers, I don't want to bore you, just if you have desire I would appreciate if you comment on this.

I go out casually with a girl that just happen to have high SMV in our area - I mean everyone is trying to get her in bed, everyone is chatting her, trying to "restrain" and "submit" her.

We had a little fling before then I got emotional and we just stopped talking until recently.

Now I'm acting (and actually feeling after reading all here) a lot less needy.

I don't overtext, I'm not pushy, and when she says something I don't like I don't act emotionally.

Pretty much I act as if she is my friend.

When we are alone and the situation is right I escalate in a very sexual way that turns her on, so she gave me some orgasms and so on.

The thing is I don't know if she do these things with other men, but with me she acts okay. Refuses my money, drives me from my home and back, and if she is not available and I say "okay" she proposes to meet me later or something like that.

I liked the fact that she muted her chats when she was with me last time (never seen that before). She said the other men just annoy her.

I think I'm getting better at being non-reactive and I train myself for the situation when maybe she will choose someone else or fuck someone else and I have to be honest - I won't show emotional reaction but inside I feel I like this girl.

Is my strategy SOMEWHAT okay, and how can I handle the fact that this girl is approached by many many men?

I'm new into this, my old self would get angry and bitter, but I came to the conclusion that you cannot just enforce rules on high SMV girls. They will just leave you because you appear beta.

TL;DR

Dating casually high SMV girl, don't want to get too attached and I wonder if she has sex with others. What strategy to use?

[–]kclanton804 points5 points6 points 5 years ago* (17 children) | Copy Link

You have oneitis for this girl. You need to find and date other women to help cure that. If she is entertaining a bunch of guys just assume she is seeing/ sleeping with others.

This girl is not a relationship option for you, and should not even be treated as a friend. Use her for sex only for a while then move on. Start meeting and seeing other women, and watch her interest go up 10 fold.

Also just because mean guys want to sleep with her doesn't mean she has high smv.....maybe she gives of major video of being easy to sleep with.

Men need high smv to attract a lot of sexual attention....women do not. A woman's Smv is not based on men wanting to sleep with her.....he'll theres women who are over 200 pounds that have plenty of sexual options thanks to the internet.

You seem very inexperienced...so I'm going to go with she DOES NOT have high smv. She is just slutty and there's a bunch of betas chasing her.

What does she look like? What does she weigh?

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They have high desire for her because she courts their attention. Not because her smv is high. Does she dress. Extremely sexy? Post social media pictures all day etc?

She does this because she feels inside that she is NOT high smv.....so she uses the men to make her feel like she is. Women know that certain things will attract a man's attention...like showing skin.

A truly secure woman does not need to court attention all day. That's the type you need (rare yes). The reason why you get feelings for these women is simply because you're only dealing with one woman at a time.

This develops a scarcity mindset and then an attitude that this girl is the ONE for you. It's actually very dangerous for a man to only be dealing with one woman..... This usually leads a man to making very bad decisions in relation to that woman. In actuality one woman is worse than having no women...... You need at minimum TWO.

Then you can deal with things on a more clear-headed perspective... And not be controlled by your lust and desire for one woman. You also have a much clearer image of whether or not she is worthy of all the adulation you're giving her in your mind.

Men often find that as soon as they start dealing with a second woman the first woman does not seem nearly as impressive. So that's my advice to you. Treat this woman as a casual sexual encounter.... And immediately start searching for another one to go along with her.

Then see how you feel about her and her behaviors... Completely different I would bet. You already clearly see her red flags....But you're trying to find a way to justify keeping her.......only because she is your only one and you don't want to be without.

So keep her.... but don't keep her by herself.. find some extras to go along with her. Spin some plates

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[–]kclanton802 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

From your description...it sounds like she is possibly not having sex with the others at this point. That could change at ANY moment though.... how old is she? (20 maybe?)

Also is she super attractive because she knows how to dress and do her hair and makeup? Or is it because she has natural beauty..... I'm guessing it's the former.... And not the latter. Because of how insecure she is.

Women like this are marketing themselves to see if they can attract the highest SMV man possible. She is not interested in the beta orbiters..... But would be open if a high SMV man appears(or what she judges to be high smv).

It doesn't necessarily have to be money or status. It could be someone she just finds to be very attractive. in the meantime she will be content sleeping with you.,.while constantly fielding offers from others.,... but she will NEVER ever be content to be totally alone.

Insecure women do not typically make for good partners, and very often have issues with narrccicism. They will continue to market themselves in case they can land a bigger better option.

oftentimes if you feel yourself getting attached to a woman like this it's best just to stay away from her because it's hard to turn your feelings off. Once you are feeling something for her she will use that to make your life a living hell... Constantly doing suspect things that make you question where she is and who she's with.

[–]Warframe_Immortal[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

I'm just amazed at how correct you are (about narcissism also, she seems to have those tendencies). She is 23, everything else you said is spot-on. Maybe this is the reason I'm cautious with this girl because I cannot trust her one bit (but I happen to feel really sexually attracted to her and I don't want to dump her since I have the option to be with her).

Her last relationship was with the biggest beta you can ever meet. If we had the "Beta Book" on this forum he would be on the cover of it. This guy was as beta as they come and this also was in total controversy with the way she portrays herself online - the pictures, the stories, the sexy dresses and so on. I feel so strange not being able to see this.

Talking to you makes me realize she is even more low self-esteem than I thought. Only that can explain the "super beta" former boyfriend. Some form of insecurity.

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Title	Strategy advice?
Author	Warframe_Immortal
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Comments	18
Date	December 29, 2020 7:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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