Can everyone please give me their best advice, resource or what worked for them. I am finding it is all too easy for me to lose frame during any disputes with my LTR and it's something I can't seem to get past.

I have good days and bad, sometimes are easier than others but I'm discovering that when I care less about the outcome, eg not backing down to appease the situation, my defensive nature hurts more.

I'm sure it's still better than if I roll over during an argument but regardless some advice would go a long way.