"Thank you friend" shit test

mgfowler · 2017-01-09T13:55:15+00:00

I think you've been friend zoned and you came off way too strong during text.

You should only escalate in person.

blue_dover · 2017-01-09T15:30:58+00:00

Me: My life sucks

Why? Why? - Texting is to set up a meet - not to get into these conversations

You want to know if that friend thing is for real - ask her to meet up - just you two - and you'll get your answer

Theunforgiven193 · 2017-01-09T16:05:13+00:00

No I don't think you handled it well. It's clear you were triggered by it. Just stop texting like the others said and use it for logistics

nastynickdr · 2017-01-09T15:18:12+00:00

You are only friendzoned if you allow yourself to. She is not required to fuck you, only if she is willing to, and you are not required to be her doormat/emotional tampon, only if you are willing to.

Yeah it was a shit test, and you came off butthurt. Next time just ignore/AA. "Yeah, friend with benefits!" "You know, girlfriends get to see each other tits!" "Im gonna be your girlfriend, but you should be aware that im a lesbian." Ignore her babble, stop being her emotional tampon via text, set a meeting, escalate and if you get shot down, next.

Plan_of_Action · 2017-01-09T17:12:53+00:00

You're treating her like a friend. I never communicate like this with a woman.

There's basic chatting before first meet up, then logistics chat, then meet up, then fuck.

From then on our text convos are logistics. If she wants to chat she can do it after I nut and before I leave.

Why?

My time is important and I'm not here as her entrainment.

This conversation shows that you either don't value your time, feel the need to game her (aka entertain her pants off), are inexperienced, or not interested in her. She won't know which one and usually women assume the least sexual of the options when they don't see you in a sexual manner.

The less you value her the less interest you'll have in talking to her, the more she'll want you... If she thinks you're a valuable dude. Either way if you have to impress her then you're wasting your time. Maybe you'll get laid eventually but it won't be worth the effort.

Title	"Thank you friend" shit test
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	5
Comments	18
Date	January 9, 2017 1:51 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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