I'm a pretty balanced guy and I bounced around from social group to social group a lot growing up and something that stay constant was that everybody in these groups thought that their way was the ultimate secret way

even though the red pill does make a lot of sense as a man I also know that I need to take it with a grain of salt.

there were so many dudes in middle school I had to beat up who thought just like a lot of red pill gurus did because they started talking shit. A lot of guys love doing this and once you can see through it it's easier to spot and shut down.

the closest I ever was to Red pill was when I was younger and I was maxing out every single hobby and responsibility I had.

and I never expected these things to give me a girlfriend but looking back and seeing the amount of work I had to put in myself it really does seem like it's a myth to think that women will just magically look at you after you complete XY and z task.

judging by red pill and other dating advice I should be swimming in girls by now just because of how much self improvement I put in.

But my base personality has not changed.

I'm still very much nerdy and bubbly,and I would argue accepting these things about myself help me sore with my self-esteem even more but I am having trouble trying to stay me while trying to get dates.