I want to make sense of a pattern I'm noticing in my life. I lived alone in mostly isolation and I'm trying to get out of it. I'm not handsome. I'm not ugly. I have a frowny expression which I'm trying to change by smiling. Women even men I interracted so far don't initiate things with me but they participate when I initiate. I get stares from women but they usually look away when I notice them. No women ever smiles to me if I don't smile first. In my limited experience, women don't try to make me their orbiters. They don't ask for favors. They don't ghost me but they often stop talking until I initiate. I think this is because they perceive me as someone who wouldn't give them resources and someone who is a threat. My face and genetics say that I might hurt them and they understand it somehow? I don't know. It actually makes sense because I have these tendencies deep down. I discovered after digging with TRP.

Am I supposed to make them feel at ease? Am I supposed to make them feel liked? Or safe? Or connected? How can I do that? I feel like I am doing something wrong that costs me relationships, sex and an overall better life.