Hi Guys, I need some help in understanding my situation. I have been a follower of TRP and have had many plates in my past. I am now in a phase of committing as I want to have kids.

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I have been in an LTR for more than a year. Month back, my girlfriend moved to another city for a 10-month assignment. She has started sending me her photographs with other people in the office. And one guy in particular: a military veteran who talks about how many dudes he killed in Iraq, his harley, his gym schedule, etc. He is also staffed on her project for at least next 3 months.

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Apparently, he helped her move in from her temporary location provided by the firm to her residence for next 10 months. He has started asking her out on bike rides, his gym and she tags along. She has been talking about him in-between for a few days. And yes, he is divorced and single.

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I have a three part question:

First, how I do let her know without coming off as insecure about drawing boundaries on her behavior and whom she should interact with? Although she has been quite faithful in her past relationships, she does crave male attention to some extent. We have a very strong chemistry both physically and mentally and I don't wish to let her go if things can work out. I have had serious trouble finding women who truly meet my expectations.

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Second, do you think I should reassess altogether if she is an LTR material or not? I am fine if she goes and sleeps with the other guy, but then she should not expect any commitment from me. I don't wish to be a cuck and get sloppy seconds.

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Third, if you think I should breakup with her, how should I do it without coming off as a jerk or insecure? The problem is that we have a lot of common friends and it will mess things up a bit if I don't breakup right.