This is the 3rd time this pattern happens to me and can't figure out why.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-07-11T23:38:22+00:00

Just like I told you last time, you are acting the part of a beta orbiter by:

Select girl I like from social media

Talk to her and get her number pretty easily

Chat a couple of days/weeks, and get to know each other

She is losing interest because you are drying her up by talking to her.

Women HATE talking to guys. It bores the fuck out of them. That's what beats do. They talk. Alphas, they do. They demonstrate their value. They show the woman they are fun, exciting and have an exciting life. Girls just want to have fun. They want to be with a man because he is fun and exciting, not boring.

You bore them by talking. When you talk to a woman without a purpose, you enter her frame completely. It dries them up.

Women have short attention spans. Be upfront, be direct, let your intentions be known immediately. The longer you wait, the more bored and dryer she gets, and the more likely she will peg you as beta. What can you do for her NOW?

Also, I think gaming on social media is beta as well.

Mpcfiend · 2016-07-11T23:30:56+00:00

You dont keep txting to logistics. Why would shorty want you after she knows everything about you. I feel you tho I used to do the same thing

JackGetsIt · 2016-07-12T00:37:43+00:00

By using social media you're already starting from a weak position. Google: "redpill dance monkey dance" for more on this.

Here are my suggestions

Accept that this is part of the game. There was a professional PUA talking about his numbers on a post a few months ago. It was something like 500 approaches, 100 numbers, 15 dates, 2 lays. I'm not saying your luck is going to be this bad but you just have to put the time in to meet and approach women. Get comfortable with rejection.
Meet people through social groups and spend a few weeks just planting the seed and showing value to a few women you are interested in (not orbiting but demonstrating). Women need to see your value, they need to see you have social connections. They need to see how you handle yourself. They need to see that other women are interested as well. Try working some more social group dynamics.

PabloEscoba · 2016-07-11T23:39:37+00:00

Chatting is for orbiters. Interact with women in person and only chat when ironing out logistics.

chrysanthemumtaffy · 2016-07-12T13:24:46+00:00

She gave you attention because you appeared out of nowhere to make her feel attractive and interesting. As you got to know each other, the effort began to outweigh the validation, or she just valued it less coming from you as you became less mysterious. Because you didn't actualize texting into meeting early on, you set a bad precedent for the relationship.

Just get to know her face-to-face next time.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-07-12T22:11:03+00:00

Chat a couple of days/weeks, and get to know each other

Get to now each other in person, any chat not done face to face it's useless and only done to create a minimum of rapport/attraction (basically to show you're not a social retard) enough to set up the date and have her say yes.

Title	This is the 3rd time this pattern happens to me and can't figure out why.
Author	Maiwaga
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	July 11, 2016 11:15 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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