I went on a tinder date last week at the beach after work and need you guys help in how I could have done it better.

The messages were as follows:

Me: So you wanna have drinks and chill?

Her: Yeah that sounds like a nice idea! Let's talk over the phone and arrange that shall we?

Me: Sure what's your #?

Her: <number>

I then called her and found that she was going to be nearby, she was thinking of going to the beach near my place after work. I said sure I'll meet her there. I didn't really want to call (would have preferred txt), and would have preferred to just invite her over but was open to the idea of the beach. I thought, maybe I'll get laid as we could bounce back to my place.

After work I txt her that I was leaving, and she called saying that it would be full tide at another beach nearby (not quite as close to my place), and that she was thinking of going there. I agreed and met her there.

When I got there, I offered her a beer that I'd brought but she said that she doesn't drink (she used to). I didn't react to that, even though in my original message I did say drinks.

We start having a get to know you type conversation and she asks what brings me to tinder. At this point I'm not feeling like this will be an easy lay and don't feel that confident with this whole thing, so I just say that basically I'm not looking for something serious.. something casual.. casual sex. She does question in more detail so I basically did say that I'm looking for casual sex. I then asked her what she was looking for, and she says nothing casual.. and that we're not not looking for the same thing so it's not going to work out.

At this point there isn't anything I can do, I'm thinking I could just leave but I wanted to swim and thought I might just keep talking. She asked a bit more about me, and since this was now just a friendly chat I went into detail about some things about me.. things that I'm working on, a bit about my past, some DLV's there but it didn't really matter, I was talking pretty honestly.

One thing she did mention on the date was that she had recently been on tinder looking for casual sex but wasn't looking for it now. Lol.

I'm still a bit confused about the whole thing. I thought I had polarized her with my first message into her looking for something casual, but it didn't turn out like that.

I also gave up my frame on setting up the date.

What could I have done better?