Tinder Date

one_more_iteration · 2018-06-29T16:35:52+00:00

I'm a former pastry chef and cook so when the conversation inevitably leads to food, I just say I'm really good at cooking their favorite dish. If I'm not I just find a recipe and have it half finished for when they come over.

Some guys say cooking for women is beta but women love a guy who is confident in the kitchen.

jb_trp · 2018-06-29T18:07:58+00:00

My basic Tinder game is often the same:

If you're going to meet them far away from your house, I'd ask them what area of town they live in, then I'd pick a beer/cocktail place close to their house/apartment. Makes it easier to transition back to their place.
When I meet them, I always go in for the hug. Then during the date, I focus on my body language: Head up, shoulders back, good eye contact, arms/legs open, speak slowly and calmly, etc. You're projecting confidence and ease.
I'd have a drink and see how things are going. Look for IOIs and hopefully they're engaged and/or seem interested. If they don't (and it's obvious), I bail. Sometimes you can get another Tinder date that same night. I've literally left girl's places/dates and have gone over and had sex with other Tinder girls.
Depending on how it's going, I'll either try to escalate at the bar (going in for a kiss), or if the vibe isn't right, ask them if they want to take a walk. Sometimes I'll even offer to walk with them to their car. But if the date has gone relatively well, I always go for the kiss close.
At this point, you've got to read the pitch. If she shuts you down for the kiss (rare), you bounce and soft next. If she's pretty aggressive with the make out, there's a good chance we can get out and have sex. If she's really aggressive, I'll try to escalate more and see how she responds: Kissing the next, grabbing her ass, sometimes you can grab the front of her blouse and kiss her breasts. Just see how she responds... Some women, at this point, are really turned on and ready to get out of there.
Then I'll be direct and with confidence and zero fear of rejection suggest going some place more private. Sometimes at this point they've already suggested (rare), so you have to lead a little. At this point, you often get some LMR or shit tests: "My apartment is a mess" is a common one ("Don't worry, I think I packed a hard hat in the trunk, I should be safe."). Squash the shit tests ("We're not having sex." "You're already thinking about having sex with me?") and you're home free.
Don't forget to keep fresh condoms in your coat pocket. I had one time I was on the rooftop of an apartment building (married woman who just had her husband agree to an open marriage) and had left my condoms in the car. Literally every chick will tell you they have an IUD... But don't bareback Tinder chicks on the first date. Trust me.

Seductions always follows the same course: Demonstrate value/build rapport, isolate, escalate. Sometimes you're doing these things bit by bit over the course of the date (i.e. you grab her hand while going to the next place, then after that place suggest walking again, but this time while walking you kiss, then suggest going to a move private place, etc.). You just need to get good at reading the woman/situation. Some women are flat in their expression, so I almost always at least go for the kiss close to see how they respond. Sometimes that's all it takes to get back to their place and get naked.

Cheers, mate.

knowledgelover94 · 2018-06-29T16:28:19+00:00

You lead.

There was recently a post on TRP about dinner dates where they were saying to tell the girl "cook me something at your place" and if she's into you, these outrageous demands absolutely work. There's lots of pro's to the dinner date.

But it's silly how you phrased the question like you should wait around till she takes the initiative to have you go to her place. Be the leader from the start. Women want a competent leader.

RedSkeller · 2018-06-29T17:21:28+00:00

I usually just say I have an early day tomorrow earlier in the conversation and will shoot for an hour or so max time for a date. If you meet a chick off tinder - she already wants to fuck or has contemplated it. After an hour or when you're up for another round just tell her you want to get out of here and go to her place.

ajs_rb26 · 2018-06-29T18:42:18+00:00

College girls, they have absolutely no objection inviting you over to their dorms if you game correctly. I live in nyc and tinder/ bumble game is so easy here.

DonaldBaelish · 2018-06-29T16:29:43+00:00

I'm assuming you drive from NJ to NYC every day, so why not bang them in your car?

Title	Tinder Date
Author	NewLifeStart1312
Upvotes	12
Comments	10
Date	June 29, 2018 3:48 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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