TL;DR: When I lose frame I over invest and I lose my natural seductive charm. How can I hold my frame without other things (like music, alcohol, etc)?

A little background, I used to be depressed for a very long time, and due to this I was very apathetic. This also happened to be the time when I used to attract the most girls. Soon after I came out of my depressive tendencies and started to live/feel better, I ended up hitting much of a dry spell with girls, and I couldn't understand why. I went back to the Red Pill and I took a look at some content and realized that I didn't have a frame. I couldn't really even understand why I didn't, nor could I really define frame for myself. Eventually though, I was able to define frame and start putting some pieces together, and with that realization came another one: the reason why I have been failing with girls all this time is due to my lack of apathy towards them.

Now, apathy is really dangerous when it's as extreme as I used to have it (long story short it made me quite suicidal, and even worse, it made me not care about killing myself or living for anything). However, there is no denying that I used to attract way more girls when I was in that frame 100% and it was unshakeable. As a matter of fact, the reason why I lost most of the girls that I was with came from the fact that I would always backslide into beta behavior after I wooed her - and mind you the plates spun themselves until I did. I literally realized all of this on my way home from work after talking to a girl, and I need some help learning to hold frame.

I notice that listening to music helps me a LOT in holding frame but I don't want to rely on music to learn to hold that stoic/semi-uninterested frame. I want to be able to be fully present in the world at large and still come off as stoic, a bit cold, and semi-uninterested, as that's what comes naturally to me. Any advice?