I recently LTR'd a girl who I have known for a couple of years through a club we did together while she was undergrad. She's cool as hell, worthy of an LTR in my opinion. We had a great time together this summer, both worked at the same job in the same department. Lots of work sex, it was pretty awesome. A combonation of fucking her brains out and being RP in the early stages of the relationship has made this girl fall in love with me. The plan started out that when she left for grad school (different city but within an hours drive/train ride) we would remain casual. As the summer progressed I was holding frame pretty well. Slowly though I feel as though I was sucked into a commitment sink hole. The conversation soon turned to exclusiveness, then official relationship and so on. I do throughly enjoy this girl, however the distance though small, has had me wanting to fuck other girls. I also want to pump the breaks on this relationship.

The real crux is that I have clinical education in her city this spring. Since it would be really convenient for me we have talked about me living with her for that time. I also have a friend who lives in this city who I could stay with, and I know she'll be butt hurt but I'm considering just saying that I'm staying with him. I'm busy as it is and I feel like most of my true free time is spent seeing her. I definitely want to keep her as an option for the future but damn she is taking up a lot of my time.

Any advice anyone has on scaling back the seriousness of a relationship or general LTR advice they can give me i'd much appreciate it. I think i've been doing a decent job keeping it redpill but I sometimes catch myself exhibiting beta behaviors.

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