Hi all.

I'm on Tinder trying to get plates and of course they're really flaky. I've found that if I get to the point quickly and invite them for a drink/Netflix they say "no, I don't know you", and if I say something like "we'll get to know each others there" they stop answering.

If I chat with them for a while, when I get to the invite, they stop responding, only to hit me back later with "sorry, [excuse]".

I'm working hard on improving my SMV these days. But what can I do in the meantime to reduce my flake rate?

I'm also trying (admittedly not enough) IRL, this post only applies to my experience with online dating. I'm 99% it's just an SMV issue but I'm curious to hear your tips and your experiences. Thanks