Too boring for a relationship?

SkorchZang · 2015-03-21T09:39:19+00:00

Cultivate more mystery. That's mainly done by deliberately not telling the girl what she legitimately wants to know. For example, she fishes about your job, and instead of telling her about it, you deflect with "Oh I run a little enhanced interrogation business for Uncle Sam, and I see I've just met my match..." or "I am a professional seducer, I'm just here with you to unwind and escape the horde of horny old ladies from work".

That kind of stuff. So where do you live? Suppress that instinct that wants to make you explain your situation to her. Instead again deflect with some cocky, funny "mysterious" shit: "Why are you asking, are you looking for a place to stay tonight?"

Answer questions with questions of your own. In general make like you're a special agent, the nazi dominatrix just tied you up to the chair and has the electrodes on your nips to interrogate you, and of course you're going to make fun of her and divulge absolutely fuck-all. Exasperate the woman, this turns them on far more than telling her you have the most interesting life in the world in all its vivid detail.

stickfiguresk · 2015-03-21T11:02:32+00:00

I'm looking for a relationship, not a fling

Then you should probably ask a different sub because you don't sound self-sufficient with an abundance mentality.

I was like you pre-trp. if you want to get another date, stop letting these sluts coast through dates. All they remember from the date is that it was the same thing as last week with guy #62 and nothing special happened. They go on first dates every weekend, fuck their FWB during the week, and pick up studs at bars every friday, and shlubs like you are just another free meal. If you want it to end differently, stop being more of the same.

To stand out, be interesting, value yourself and have a plan. The date should escalate through the night and end near a bed. If it doesnt, where do you think it'll go?

If you're otherwise content with your life, spice up the bits that you can change easily. There's neat hobbies out there. Learn an amazing recipe and tell sluts youre a classicaly trained chef or something. Buy a canvas and slop some paint on there and put it on e-bay, boom, you're a professional artist. You could do both of those things in an hour. Shit, do both. If you dont, you only have yourself to blame for being afraid of leaving your comfort zone.

keep-it-dense · 2015-03-21T15:00:43+00:00

You need to get a hobby, what do you do outside of work? What do you do with your friends, i assume you listen to music, go to gigs or festivals. Read learn how to do something, anything. I bet you just get home from work and play video games or watch tv.

oldredder · 2015-03-22T08:00:44+00:00

Yup: boring. A man of adventure has either mystery or stories. Best is a good mix of both. The more you live the more you can share or hint you can share, then don't, but the hinting is needed, verbal & non-verbal, to ensure a sense of mystery is there. She will want to chase mystery+hot face+fit body. That's how women are.

I should also point out that I'm looking for a relationship, not a fling.

There is no point to that mindset: you can't tell in advance what you get but you CAN fuck it up by planning for it. In particular a woman will probably avoid a man who is clearly looking to avoid flings to get relationships unless she's ready to make babies and you're ready to be trapped because you're stupid.

Title	Too boring for a relationship?
Author	DueseExes
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	March 21, 2015 8:36 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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