Too much dread with LTR?

jttjt · 2017-01-25T02:54:43+00:00

Was I in the wrong here?

From a moral standpoint, yes. Very douchey behavior, obviously you wouldn't let something like that slide if the genders were reversed, right?

However, as your experience would suggest...this shit works.

she constantly feels like I am hiding shit from her, I can leave her anytime and be totally OK, doesn't feel like I love her

Make no mistake: the moment she feels like you're hiding nothing from her, you love her, and you would be crushed if she left you, she will lose all attraction and dump your ass.

So... you have a choice now. You can be the hammer or the nail.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-01-25T04:44:25+00:00

Your girl needs some comfort from you. You sound like youre inducing too much dread, either due to personal insecurities/fear or lack of caring about the LTR. You either stick to the LTR or you continue these activities single. It just sounds like youre making this girl's life hell - she doesn't deserve it man. Take proper responsibility for your actions and your relationships with people - this isn't TRP as much as common courtesy and human decency.

Felkenator · 2017-01-25T04:25:06+00:00

You are treating this girl like dirt. Why are you in an LTR with her?

failingtheturingtest · 2017-01-25T03:40:48+00:00

If it's against your morals, yes.
But from a sexual strategy position, you're fucking acing it.

You'll need to do a little comfort to pull her back in. But don't apologize (you didn't do anything wrong) and don't back down.

"Yes, I can leave you (push). But I don't want to (pull).
A girl bought me a beer (push), this is not the issue. If you think a girl buying me a beer is bigger than our relationship, then you need to work on that (pressure flip).
You've overreacted (pressure flip) and we both needed time to deal with that. I've made my decision (you're the captain), I can forgive you this overreaction (pull, but it's her fault), if you don't do it again (dread)."
edit to add (push, pull pressure flip, dread) examples

DiggerClam · 2017-01-25T05:35:55+00:00

Did you tell her you two were monogamous? Has the subject been brought up? If you never agreed to monogamy then what's the problem? Fuck around with who you want, when you want. If you agreed to a monogamous relationship and cheated, you're a piece of shit. But if she's sticking around after the fact, then it's on her.

BestSC86 · 2017-01-25T16:11:58+00:00

Lots of drama....congrats you have this girl hooked for now.

But just don't expect this relationship to ever be exactly healthy or fun.....you are doing shady shit and she is insecure so it is always going to be loaded with shit storms of drama.

Look as one other poster mentioned....there are consequences to the way you act. Sure it is fun being the mack daddy with a thirsty "LTR" along with a couple of chicks vying for your dick but part of that is dealing with the associated drama. Some dudes thrive on those emotional spikes just like women while others don't. You seem to be a little confused thinking that by being big mack that it would be dramaless fuck fest with all the women magically STFU and laying on their backs with legs spread. That is the case about "NEVER".

You just need to learn to handle the drama.

Title	Too much dread with LTR?
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Upvotes	2
Comments	14
Date	January 25, 2017 2:39 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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