Trouble scheduling third date

redbluepilling · 2015-06-03T06:25:02+00:00

"We" plan? No, YOU PLAN. YOU'RE THE MAN WITH A PLAN. Give a time/date (within 0-2 days) and if she can't, she will tell you, perhaps with a reason, and, hopefully she'll suggest an alternative time. It's that simple. Concise.

Anyway, your language is so supplicative from the start, 'we' and then you worrying about her schedule and putting the decision making onto her. Also, I generally don't give a shit about smiley use, but in combination of all the horrible shit you're writing, it does make it worse.

A man knows what he wants and he holds his frame. So easily you backtrack from her tests and lose frame. Failure after failure. "You want to see me so soon??" .... "Yes". Own it. Don't apologize for wanting to make plans with her. Be clear in your intent. Then you say "girls" but she doesn't quite believe you're spinning girls, and therefore tests you... and you fail. You instantly implied a willingness to not spin plates to instead only have her. You hand over your power so easily. Again, the proper answer is to own it. In this instance, you'd have best been served to CUT THE BULLSHIT and get to the actual planning. Ignore her shit test here and stop playing in her verbal playground.

You need to be concise. You're trying too hard to have comfort via text. The comfort should come from in person. Any interacting should be done in person...excluding concise planning via text. With your next girl, set this tone from the start.

This is what my texting is like: Days could go by, I don't converse via text. Then when I want to see her, I'll send a message such as: "Red wine tomorrow, 7pm" ...or, often the case, she'll be the one texting me, wanting to make plans. Then it's simple, and again, concise.

Her: "Come over tomorrow?"

Me: "Yeah around 9"

Her: "That late? Come sooner? :)"

Me: "Can't"

Her: "Okay see you then!"

P.S. I'm assuming that this 'third date' implies the typical BP 'third date rule'. That'd mean you haven't had sex either. You've dug yourself a hole, this one is pretty much done. To finish up in one last ditch effort, be concise and own your actions. You still never even presented her with a time. Of course you're going to have trouble scheduling when you don't present a fucking schedule.

P.S.S. You should've fucked her on the first date. (or the second, after assessing and fixing why you weren't able to execute on the first). But you're clearly lacking the ability to carry out your intentions. You back down easily instead of being honest with yourself and sticking to that. And so, you've conveyed that you're a man that doesn't know how to get what he wants. She's not tingling for you. You didn't let her tingle. She wants to fucking tingle right from the start, but you're prancing around, scared to act.

imgonnabethegreatest · 2015-06-03T05:00:51+00:00

There are multiple mistakes here.

-Stop using faces so much

-Don't backtrack when she said "Girls. Plural". Own that shit like a man. A high value single man is always speaking to multiple women at the same time.

-Stop giving her compliments for free; "I make exceptions for special girls." Why is this girl special? She's not.

It looks to me that you've fucked this one up heavily but when in doubt, ask her out and if she flakes and doesn't request a future date, next.

"Hey I'm going to X place at Y time on Z date, you should come."

If she says no or that shes busy, next.

stickfiguresk · 2015-06-03T08:36:38+00:00

Cocky is the exact opposite of the problem. This chick's ruined. I'd say you'd maybe get in her pants in a BP manner, if your SMV is high enough above hers, or you're very lucky. I see nothing RP in this conversation.

Get some new numbers and actually follow texting guides. There's tons of them on the main sub. And for christ sake, a third date and you've only kissed her? The reason why you don't have a 3rd date and why you didn't get laid on the first or second is because you need to learn to close. Study that too--BANG by Roosh is good.

Title	Trouble scheduling third date
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Comments	7
Date	June 3, 2015 4:40 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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