Hey TRP,

Lurker of about a year and a bit here, first off the usual “this and the main sub are great” acknowledgments, changed my whole perspective on life and myself, etc. I’m enthusiastically swallowing the pill, but I’m definitely still in my “overcoming conditioning” phase. Which leads into my question.

I’m am empathetic dude, and I can’t help but put myself in the shoes of others, male or female, and I’m struggling with the notion of spinning multiple plates from a morality/empathy standpoint. I realize its partially blue pilled conditioning, but I’m having an incredibly hard time overcoming thoughts like “what if she believes she’s the only person I’m seeing and gets hurt when she find out she’s not?” Or “Am I a bad person if I keep seeing this girl even though I KNOW she’ll never lock me down and I’m fairly sure she wants to be in an LTR with me?” It feels deceptive, manipulative, and just kind of...wrong, Idk how else to describe the sensation.

I want to spin plates, I want to be fucking different women, but I don’t want to hurt anyone. I realize its nearly impossible but the feeling is there, hence this post.

Situation for context: 24 year old, been blue pilled my whole life until finding the red pill as described above. Aforementioned plate is a 22 year old virgin, I’m the first welcome attention from guys she’s received (first kiss and all). She’s cute and sweet, but I already know I wouldn’t LTR her. I would, however, smash. I think thats where my hangup truly is, that I already know I’m not going to LTR her and I’m nearly positive she’s hoping/thinking its going to go that way and that bothers me.

What are your thoughts, fellas?