Could someone please in Gods name tell me what I'm doing wrong. I feel totally defeated.

I've been dating for I don't know how many years but I seem to have the fantastic ability to get immediately friend-zoned by women.

Let me give you some examples of some of my recent dates in 2020:

  • Date 1: 3 hour long walk, had good conversation, she told me to text her once I got home. I did. We on/off texted for a week then she says she's not feeling a connection. OK, I move on.
  • Date 2: 2.5 hour long zoom call, again good conversation. Followed up with her but she never texted back.
  • Date 3: 5 hour long combination of lunch, drink, a walk in the park. Followed up with her she says she didn't feel a connection.

At this point I've decided I'm never going to text women after dates. It's impossible to know what they want. I'm not forcing them to hang out with me for hours against their will, and I suppose I'm probably not a catfish with zero social skills or an unpleasant human being otherwise they wouldn't spend so much time with me. I've probably been rejected by 50+ women and people I tell in real life are honestly shocked because I'm considered a good looking, intelligent man with a good career. I just don't get it, I'm not even going for 8/10s or looking to punch significantly above my weight.

I just feel totally defeated, the last few women I've dated have all texted me first right after the date, so I can only assume that's the best thing to do, let them text because then they are obviously interested. It's just totally demoralising spending so much time and money with women who lead you on, spend hours with you but aren't really interested in anything.